Question for the Single Mothers

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Question for the Single Mothers
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 11:32am
OK so i watched the movie Jerry McGuire for the 100th time and cried during certain parts.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:10pm

Well,I think you have to get out and date quite a few people before you find one to "go steady with" - of course some people zero in on someone serious right away - but these are far and few between and they don't always stay together.

I don't see any reason why a single mom cannot date again and find someone to love her and treat her well and have a fantastic relationship with. I think it does take a little work to learn about yourself and to learn the ropes of dating.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 6:44pm

I've only seen the movie once and that was a long time ago... don't remember that part.

As for the statement.. i disagree. I do date. Five years ago (before my second marriage) i didn't date. I'll admit. I zeroed in on one guy... that didn't work for me...

This time around, i decided i needed to do something different.. NOT zero in too quickly. I needed to DATE. I bought two books that really helped me get started both written by Henry Cloud. "Boundaries in Dating" and "How To Get A Date Worth Keeping"... both had very good dating tips and advice. Advice for getting started and for the whole process... I learned some valuable things about myself and "why" i made the same mistakes.... this was important for me so that i can avoid making them again this time around.

The number one mistake i made was being attracted to "controlling, nonresponsive" men. I believed that i could "save" and "fix" them. Fortunately, now i have a new attitude. I don't believe in dating just one guy... i don't believe in being exclusive until i've dated a person for atleast 6 months... i don't date to find a mate.. and i enjoy the whole dating process from first flirts, to getting a number, a call back, or first date, etc. I'm less worried about the future of the "relationship" and more joyful of the moment.

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Loonybunny

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:33pm

Hmmm... I can sort of see what that statement might mean. "Single moms don't date"... to me, in relation to that "they've already been to the circus" and "already seen the puppet show" part just puts me into a certain frame of mind when it comes to that first statement.


Single moms just don't care to date with no goal, IMO. Single moms don't care to play the silly games and

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 7:56am

Hi there!


I never did like that movie.


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