Question of the week and Therapy Session

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Question of the week and Therapy Session
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Fri, 03-07-2008 - 8:51am
Ok, before I even begin to tell you about the events that took place last night. Let's all have a stab at how long the widower has been single. I know the answer, but can you guess it? I will let you know after we get a few guesses, with a very

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Sat, 03-08-2008 - 10:05am

We are meeting for drinks and dessert tonight, so I am going to ask him if he and his wife (Susie) had an agreement of some sort.


We talked for 3.5 hours last night and he shared some amazing and very funny stories about her. She was a Parole Officer. The woman had guts! She used to go to these houses to serve the papers and check on these hoodlums. My goodness! I just kept telling him how at awe I was of her courage. She was an inspiring woman and I definitely would have wanted to know her.


I think the great thing is, is when we talk about her now, he seems very comfortable, but he never uses terms that make me think he isn't ready at all. Does that make sense? And we talk about EVERYTHING else under the sun so it just a 20-30 minute topic in a sometimes 3 hour conversation. I ask all the questions, but nothing about when she became ill. I already know the nitty-gritty of cancer and don't want to be reminded myself, so I ask about her roots, her career, where she went to school, how they met, those kind of questions. So I laugh with him and I share stories of my X husband that were funny. It's all good and I know he's excited to see me.


We also both talk a lot about the kids, but I haven't asked how they adjusted. I just don't want to ask those questions, I want to ask questions I know will make him smile.


So what is your other theory? I would love to hear it.

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Sat, 03-08-2008 - 10:19am

It is great that you are able to make him laugh and listen and talk.. I think this will do wonders for him and who knows eventually it may turn out into something more for both of you.


So will this meeting be a "date"? I guess you plan on just a friendly meeting to talk and share.


Looking forward to updates

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Sat, 03-08-2008 - 11:45am

he sounds reallly nice and irrelevant of the wife subject, I love that you are talking about everything else under the sun as you put it -

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Sat, 03-08-2008 - 1:37pm

Yes, I know we quickly touched base on that very brielfy. He said one

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Sat, 03-08-2008 - 1:47pm
I see it as a date if he pays. It's friends if the bill is split.
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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 12:51pm

Not yet- but I plan on it. I think the Meet up email I got recently might have mentioned a positive thinking group or a "law of attraction" group- same philiosophy.


I'll let ya know!


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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 3:07pm

Cat - he sounds like such an interesting guy and he is so lucky that you have come into his life.

Rosecolouredspecs

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