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| Wed, 03-09-2005 - 1:00pm |
What is the t-bone part of your handle significant of?
And a few more serious questions if you'd care to answer. I have asked a few other guys friends, but one more opinion will add to my dataset.
Why would a guy flirt like mad, really come on strong, respond to you and then ...STOP dead in his tracks?
And the reverse...
When someone doesn't "see" you for a couple of years and then suddenly notices, what's up with that?

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This could get long....sorry...
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"What is the t-bone part of your handle significant of?"
It is slang for one of musical instruments I play....trombone. I also play trumpet (my primary instrument), french horn and flugelhorn (remember Chuck Mangione?)
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"Why would a guy flirt like mad, really come on strong, respond to you and then ...STOP dead in his tracks?" and "When someone doesn't "see" you for a couple of years and then suddenly notices, what's up with that?"
What? LOL!!! You think women have the corner on changing their minds? Acutally, I think the answer to both of these are the same.
Seriously, the thing that you (and all the other women here) have to understand about men is that sex is the single most important thing to men. We work, sleep, and eat for the purpose of finding a mate to have sex with. Our testosterone levels are many times higher than womens (Yes! Women have testosterone, it is the hormone that regulates sex drive, more testosterone means more drive, this could be why women who have sex, tend to want more...they're getting a dose of testosterone every time!) Our genitals are exterior to our bodies and are touched by our clothing continuously. Our penises "remind" us every morning and sometimes several times a night, what their primary purpose is.
As a result men are like fish...(I can't believe I just said that!) men are opportunists. And men (unlike women I think) are not *that* particular about the women we connect with.
The result is that if a man is pursuing a woman, then finds a woman that he thinks is more available to him, he will discontinue the pursuit of the first woman in favor of the second.
Of course, this assumes that all things are equal...no change in job status or responsibilities, no changes in health or stress.
Of course, *I'm* not like this at all...I'm not like other men! LOL!!!!
I read somewhere (I think it was on ivillage) that a guy will settle down when he's ready, with whatever girl he's dating at the time. So he could be dating the perfect woman, but if he's not ready to be married in general, and she's pushing for marriage, he'll bail. Likewise, when he's ready to settle down, the girl he's dating (whoever she is) is the perfect candidate.
Your thoughts?
LOL...ok
It sounds more like he's changing direction than changing his mind. Sniffing the wind and following the scent.
I was aware that women have testosterone and as a post menopausal woman I think it probably has a greater effect.
You sound like one of my professors who equates everything with sex/evolutionary advantage. So we're pretty much at the mercy of our "selfish genes"? I guess women have their "mating strategies" as well...that leave unsuccessful men out of the picture.
Too bad we can't just like each other. *sigh*...
This is very interesting - thanks for your honesty. I have also read the other posts here and see we have another good discussion going.
What makes a guy want to settle down with one girl/woman? Is it timing - or just the fact that she is that attractive to him - both physically and mentally.
Thanks for your insight?
I'm sorry if this seems rude to anyone, but I am JUST ROLLING ON THE FLOOR with laughter right now! MAN, is this a fantastic thread. LOL.
It's always been known that men are steered by the penis! LOL, sorry, but it seems to be the nutshell of what Brian was talking about.
I can't stop laughing. I am just dying in my corner of the world. Tomorrow you will read "Crazy American dies of laughter in Germany. Investigators still at a loss at what caused this phenonemon."
Kim
"I read somewhere (I think it was on ivillage) that a guy will settle down when he's ready, with whatever girl he's dating at the time. So he could be dating the perfect woman, but if he's not ready to be married in general, and she's pushing for marriage, he'll bail. Likewise, when he's ready to settle down, the girl he's dating (whoever she is) is the perfect candidate."
That seems plausible for me, but I think in the presence of the right woman, a guy can be "knocked off the fence" so to speak.
"What makes a guy want to settle down with one girl/woman? Is it timing - or just the fact that she is that attractive to him - both physically and mentally."
I think there are a great many things that make a guy settle down. Compatibility with his woman is one of them. Where he is in his life....career, etc. But I think another one may be if he thinks that his current woman is "the best he can do". It's a guy's biological clock, so to speak. Will a better woman come along who finds what he has to offer her appealing, before I start to lose my hair, gain a gut, etc.
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