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| Mon, 02-28-2005 - 5:25pm |
Hi everyone. I just wanted to give you a quick update. I got a call from my doctor last week with my test results. The lab confirmed that I have dysplasia (pre-cancerous cells on my cervix) and they have to be removed. I'm having cryosurgery (a procedure where they freeze the cervix then scrape away all the bad cells on Thursday. Not looking forward to it, but I just want to get it over with. I have a vacation coming up in 4 weeks, and I want to be totally recovered by then. Positive thoughts would be appreciated.
I found out last week that my company is splitting, my attorney and others are going out on their own to start a new firm, and we are moving. So, as if I wasn't busy enough, things are going to get worse. I will be working every weekend from now until my vacation at work. I worked 15 hours this weekend. So, if I'm not on the board much, it's because I'm just swamped. I'm trying to make the best of everything. I'm going to hang out and see how things are at the new place. If things don't improve or get worse, I'll think about lookin for another job. It's just real hard to walk away from 18 years seniority.
Something kind of cool happened this weekend. Both Mark and I worked Saturday, but he came over in the evening. When I was getting ready to go out, he told me that he told his sister and BIL about us -- which was a total surprise to me. I know it doesn't seem like a big deal, but for Mark -- that's a huge deal, and it was completely unsolicited by me. He's told his friends about me, too. Unfortunately, he didn't exactly get the reaction I would have expected. I know his BIL. He did some work for me at my house last year. He's a self-employed carpenter, and as a favor to Mark, I had him refinish the hardwood floor in my son's room. This BIL said some negative things about me to Mark, but I was glad to hear that Mark defended me and stuck up for me. And Mark really doesn't care what this guy has to say. So, overall, I was pleased. I don't think we'll be double-dating any time in the future with these two, but that's ok. This guy is very nosey and negative, and we just want to keep him out of our business. He actually had the nerve to ask Mark if we were sleeping together. Mark told him it was none of his business -- end of discussion.
Also, Mark got a letter from his ex-girlfriend. He showed it to be before me left my house yesterday. It wasn't as bad as I thought it was. He talked for a few minutes about it. Then, later last night, he called me and he said he wanted to read me the letter again because he wanted to respond and he wanted to know what I thought. I'm not thrilled that his ex is writing to him, but I was impressed that Mark shared the information with me instead of hiding it. He made it loud and clear to be that he wants to end this thing once and for all. He's moved on, and she has to move on as well.
What I think it's pretty cool is that when I decided to give him a second chance, I told myself that I was not going to get nuts about it, I was just going to go with the flow and see what happened. So far, that strategy has paid off. I'm enjoying the ride, and things are progressing without me having to worry about it or push the issue. That's quite a relief to me. I guess if something is meant to be, it will be, and if it's not, it won't no matter how much you plot, plan, push or scheme. He actually asked me where I see our relationship -- something he never wanted to talk about last time. It's amazing how much he has changed and matured during our time apart. And his being upfront and honest with me is winning back my trust.
I like sharing good news. I'll let everyone know how my procedure on Thursday goes.
Donna

I will send lots of positive thoughts on Thursday that the procedure goes smoothly. I am sorry to hear about all the extra work. In the end could this move be a postive step?
It really sounds like the relationship with Mark is on a great path.
Hi Donna,
Thanks for writing to us with your update. You really do have a full plate now.
I wish you well for your surgery. I hope you take Thursday and Friday off from work and can recuperate for the weekend. I had that surgery and it was okay - nothing I couldn't stand - just a tiny bit of cramping during and definite cramps afterwards. I was tired afterwards for about a day. But everything has been fine since.
With regards to work, I am hoping that this means that you are getting rid of your bosses's boss or the guy you don't like? And can start again anew? Keep us posted on that. I know it sounds like a lot of work but a fresh start can be just what you need for the work scene!! I know it hasn't been easy for you.
And with regards to Mark - good good and more good. It is progressing, you are not sweating it or doing too much - and that is all good. I like your synopsis at the end. It means so much that he showed you that letter and wants to put that issue behind him. It is also great that he is telling people about you.
And I think it is best of all that you are keeping so busy. I think our dear Lord did this to you so you wouldn't go crazy over Mark - he can have the opportunity to go crazy over you!!
Cheers - I know you will be busy - so no - pressure - but keep in touch and talk to us when you can with your updates.
Hi Donna
Hope everything goes smoothly for you on Thursday. I'll be thinking of you.
So glad things are at a good place right now with Mark. Sounds like you're handling things very wisely. And sounds like he is putting in his effort too.
I do hope work calms down for you. That doesn't sound like alot of fun. Hope it all works out in the end. You never know what opportunities might lay ahead, right?
Hang in there!
Tara