In reading the issues with Kazoo ...
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In reading the issues with Kazoo ...
| Fri, 06-01-2007 - 3:07am |
Something just hit me. Its not the SAME, but to some extent, it is.
I donated my eggs. Twice. Way back in my mid 20's.


Funny you should mention donation. There was an article in our local paper just two days ago about sperm donators being taken to court for child support.
I think for me, the difference is the presumed anonymity regarding sperm/egg donation. If you're having sex with someone, hopefully you know at least a little about them, and are making a choice to have sex. Everyone knows the risks involved.
I don't really have much of an opinion regarding Kazoo- like Liz, my daughter's father is not involved AT ALL in her life- unlike Liz, I was married to him, and he pays no support.
Do I wish things could be different? Well, sure, financial support at least would be a huge help. Do I think she's lacking? Not entirely. While she'll never have a relationship with her biological father, she does have very strong bonds with other, better, male role models.
I don't happen to think Kazoo and my ex are anything alike. We tried to have a baby, he knew she existed from the very first little pink line, and there was no secrecy, assumption of birth control, or hiding it. We were married, and even before our marriage fell apart he had no desire to be a father. This was one of the biggest reasons we aren't still married.
My daughter has a relationship with all of the members of her father's family, and knows his name. She's seen his picture, and once in a blue moon she'll ask if he loves her or misses her. My reply is that he doesn't know her, but everyone who does know her loves her. Honestly, after seeing the type of person he turned out to be, she's so much better off and my life is so much simpler.
After reading everyone's stories here and knowing so many people with mixed, blended, and non traditional families, I count my blessings that I don't have to deal with my ex as regards my children in any way. In fact, most of the time, it's as if he doesn't exist. That works out surprisingly well for us.
Moody, spouting off
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I had to respond to this post. I don't really think biology is what makes a family, love is. All three of my little ones are adopted (through the foster care system nonetheless) and I am their mother. I love them dearly and they love me. They may as they get older want to reach out to the person(s) that contributed to their biology which will be fine with me as long as they (biological parents) are in a good place and it is safe. My two oldest did spend their younger years with their biological mothers or other biological family members. We discuss them and it is a subject that is open for discussion at any time in our home.
I know you have said you may want one more. I would certainly recommend adoption. It is wonderful and I can promise just as great of a parenting experience. My kids love me and (for the most part) adore each other. There is no biological connect to any of us but we are all very close. It is a great option and I'm proud to say I've got great kids. Their birthdates are 7/00, 2/01 and 7/01. Makes for a great, sometimes crazy, life.
Just wanted to share.
Priscilla