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| Mon, 08-20-2007 - 9:09am |
relationship and dating challenge. Let's just keep it on one thread.
Sorry I am late, but I was on vacation for a few days and now I am back and ready to hear the updates. PLUS, this gave you all an extra few days!
So let's hear the outcomes!
Did you say the positive words to yourself?
Where and when did you practice meeting someone or did you meet someone?
Keep a journal?
Try the kissing experiement or what was it special that you did with your partner?

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Now come on, let's hear the scoop.
Their is a second part to this all....
Well, i feel like i've been updating my results in the "It's Raining Men" post...
I know for sure I can count Cook because we talked about a movie date... even though we havn't gone out yet....
And I got new 3 phone numbers in the past 7 days.
Feelings ~ rollercoaster emotions sometimes. Sometimes when I'm flirting, i lose confidence. Perhaps i think things aren't going as quickly as I'd like... for example the guys didn't ask me for my number. I asked for theirs. My side hug was criticized as too "friendly"... a front hug would be more flirty... so I can work on that... And, I do worry about embarrassing myself or making a fool if I flirt with someone who turns out not to be interested. I know that thought needs to leave my head. That's thinking too much about stuff i have no control.
And at other times, i feel empowered flirting. Like I don't care what a guy thinks, i've done my part... I was friendly, flirty and open to possibilities. I've been loving the attention, too. I feel good that I'm not putting all my "eggs in one basket" or waiting on ONE guy to call me back.... I have options and I'm staying busy... too busy... I'm exhausted right now. lol. but i'm not complaining.
I think the updates are great, but just like you did now with describing your feelings, etc is what I am really looking for to add to the next additional step process of all of this.
The feelings of how you felt: empowerment, rejection, clammy hands, confidence, etc etc is very important in describing the process; to better understand your feelings and then to continue to look deeper within yourself with the negative thoughts and the positive thoughts that happened AFTER you . But we will go over that in the next step. I just want everyone to be aware.
Edited 8/21/2007 12:34 pm ET by myprecioustwo
I had already given some update on me trying to surprise my guy.. I left him a plant of red roses and a sweet card in his apartment and he was really happy to find them that evening. this was about a week ago. He said he loved what the card said much more than the flowers.. and that he would keep those plants alive for as long as he can..
We took a two day trip over the weekend..kind of our first vaccation togather..I have to admit that my PMS partially ruined it.. but we did well overall.. Since this was the first trip I took with him, I was constantly thinking about my ex.. and the trips we took.. needless t say I realised that I need more time to get over my past. He was sweet and really putup with me and my PMS.
Another thing that happened was that I was thinking about his age somewhat more than usual.. Not because he was lacking evnergy.. it is silly..but it is from photographs..my guy is great but is least photogenic and he has more wrinkles on his face than people his age something that most thin or athletic people may have..I felt I am shallow to think this way.. But he is 10 + yrs older than me and I am a bit confused about it..
I have to mention that I am the one who was eager to go out with him to begin with and I am very very attracted to him and he is the kindest and most romantic guy I have been with..
Okay now what he did for me recently.. apart from the trip.. Now that Iam having my "ladies day".. last night I got about a hour long massage for my aching feet ... he is simply sweet..
I am thinking of doing something sweet for him.. along with figuring out my feelings and confusions.. We did talk about what I feel and he told me that it is okay to doubt what I feel and that it is in no way shallow...made me feel better.
I posted this on the other thread last week:
My hot nerd is back from his trip and we finally got to talk face to face about a couple things that had been bothering me. We've done a TON of emotional sharing so far this week. As I had hoped, his words echoed his actions (which have been making me very happy for months). We are in the same "place" in our relationship at the present. He is definately committed to making our relationship continue to work as it is now. However, because he is so very honest it is also clear there is still the possibility in the future that I may want more from him than he will be willing or able to give me. Right now we are both willing to take that risk.
We did the kissing experiment yesterday after talking over lunch. My kids are with their dad tonight so I'm really ready to cook up something fun for dinner for two tonight. I better prepare something that won't burn in case we must have dessert first.
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Since then:
We did manage to eat a little food and talk a little more last Thursday night ;). We got very little sleep though since it was our first night together in a few weeks. On Friday we went to a food festival and then an outdoor movie. On Saturday my kids were back home from their dad's house. My SO and I had each been invited separately (my kids as well) to a picnic by mutual friends and colleagues. We all had a great time - we really didn't go as dates - but it was clear that our friends and colleagues now consider us a couple. The past few days I've been savoring every free minute I can with my kids before they start back to school. Soccer practice starts back up again tonight. This weekend my kids are with their dad for a couple days and my SO and I have plans to go to a wedding and a graduation party.
My update, though it wasn't anything totally wild or THAT different from what might be our normal...
It was our 2-yr anniversary celebration on Saturday. If it counts- even though it was more than a week after the challenge started! We didn't get together once that week since the challenge because I got the kids back, coupled with him being a bit scarce due to that whole not-wanting-to-tell-me-bad-news thing that I'd posted about before in the Deep Programming thread. So anyway, this night ended up being our first night together after a bit of a dating break- and also a bit like making-up time as well as celebration time. (A weird mix, really- but okay I guess)
So anyway, the big daring thing I did to spice things up was that when we were watching the game (go Cowboys!), we started getting a bit touchy-feely-kissy and ignoring the game. And then it was evident just what was about to transpire... but we both had to make a bathroom run first, after consuming alot of liquids at dinner. LOL- sometimes nature calls at the worse time, but hey, that's life...
I got back out before he did. So I decided I'd just surprise him by being totally naked by the time he got out. :-) hehe
I loved the reaction I got out of him from that!!! (He's a MAN- what ELSE would he have done?? Gone home??? NOT!!!! So it wasn't all that much of a risk) But I just loved the ability to surprise him with something totally unexpected. :-) And then we had some great sex after that. :-) :-) :-) Happy Anniversary to US!
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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