The Real World...

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Registered: 04-09-2003
The Real World...
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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 1:07am

Just plain ole sucks sometimes!

Yesterday was one of the worst days I've had in a long long time! I came home after a horrible day at work and just wanted to take a nap with my dd. However, my electricity had been shut off. I mailed the payment, but they had not received it yet and they just shut it completely off. So, needless to say, all of the groceries I had bought the day before had been sitting in my hot fridge ALL day long. I was able to salvage a few, but the rest had to be thrown out. Thankfully my power was restored this afternoon - but not before I cried all night and day long. My thought was "what kind of mother am I if I can't even keep the lights on for my daughter?"

I'm just so very tired. I feel like I'm working and working and working but nothing is really paying off. I know that it's just going to take some time, but boy are things stressful right now. I was just happy and relieved that my mom's door is always open. My dd and I stayed the night at her house last night. It actually felt kinda good...my dd and I snuggled up to my mom and ate popcorn and watched tv...lol!

Anyways...I think in some ways yesterday was a huge eye opener for me. Even though I feel like I've made some good moves and decisions, I still feel like I've been going about things in the wrong manner. I'm more determined than ever right now to accomplish everything that I've set out to do, no matter how tired, stressed, upset, etc., that I get. I'm starting to pull some doubles at work to take care of the money issue. It's not much, but it will start to help. When dd is gone with her dad I'm going to work until they throw me out...lol!

I just keep telling myself that things could be worse and that I'm very fortunate....

Thanks for listening! Hope everyone is having a great week!

Kait

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 7:21am

Hi Kait,

That sure stinks that you had the double whammy of losing the lights and then the refrig. There is nothing so depressing as a house without electricity - we all learned this here with the hurricanes.

Your solution is just fine - you are going to work extra when you don't have dd. It is great that your mom is there for you - I am sure she really enjoyed your company.

You are going to school and doing a lot of things so you won't have to stay this way. And DD is no worse for the wear.

Just hang in there. We care!!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 10:56am

Kait,

Is it not possible for you to move home with your Mom? When I left my husband, and 4000 sq foot house $400,000 house... I took my girls to live with my mom and stepdad. We've been there for a bit over a year now, and having their support, and comfort was wonderful in the beginning of "being alone". After I found a job, and things started looking bright for me... I am now ready to move out (although my girls claim they are staying with MiMi and PaPa)... but I am stuck there for my 4th grader to finish out her school year. I peeked to see if you have a profile, assuming that you work in the restaurant field (working doubles), that if you were home with your mom, you could work late shifts, when DD is sleeping, or have something worked out like that. I just know that the support of my parents gave me the ability to be a better mother, and put myself in a postion to take care of my children on my own.

Hugs,

Kerry

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 9:05am

Sometimes it's two steps forward, one step back.

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