Reality check - Update

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Reality check - Update
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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 2:18pm
So, as expected, here's his explanation:

"I did take myself off of Yahoo, and I went back in after I told you how to do it. I made myself "searchable", and then believed I had clicked it again to make myself "unsearchable" There is no way now to make it look anything less than deceptive. I've tried to be as upfront as possible, but didn't really pay that close attention to how I have used it. I have had additional emails from people who had my yahoo personals mailbox before. When the icon appears on my taskbar, I always click on it. I didn't really have any thoughts that I was deceiving anybody. I don't know if I've confused you more or less."

Would you buy it? Should I give him another chance (for which he hasn't asked yet, by the way)? His ad is gone right now, for what that's worth.

I guess the reason I am undecided is that I do like the guy, or I did before this whole ad fiasco. But at this point it would take a lot to earn my trust back.

Galina

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 2:48pm

If there were my DH, yeah, I'd buy it. He's a computer dummy in some ways. And if clicking on the inbox thing to check mail shows that there is activity on the account, then

Becky

 

 

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 3:01pm
Well, I replied by saying only thank you for the explanation, and that I wasn't sure I was ready to accept it yet. Which is true. I figured if he is indeed as interested in me as he said he is, he'll understand and be willing to give me time to become comfortable again. And if not, then it's fortunate it only took a month to see him for what he really is.

G

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 3:53pm

Even if he has removed his ad, you can still check it for activity later.


Yahoo, doesn't do a very good job of hiding it's ads that have requested to be hidden.

Kim

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 6:18pm
I say KERPLUNK.

Too many questions - he pushed for the sex too soon, didn't call you back afterwards and now the question about the personals.

Kerplunk, by the way, is the sound a toad makes when he hits the top of the pond.....

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 8:20pm
I am sorry, maybe I didn't make myself clear in the original message: he didn't PUSH for sex, it was a joint decision, and he did call back afterwards. It was yesterday he didn't call, and it turns out he had a long and stressful day. Which, by the way, he told me BEFORE he saw my demand for explanation, so it wasn't just another excuse.

KERPLUNK will wait, just yet. You suggested I take a "wait and see" attitude earlier, before I knew all the facts. Well, after my failed marriage I decided I will not "wait and see" any longer. When something bothers me, I will speak up and ask questions, and if I don't like the answers, I will take action. I am satisfied with the answers for the time being, and am willing to "wait and see" now.

Galina