Really hurt and I feel stupid for it

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Really hurt and I feel stupid for it
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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 10:59pm
I am really having a crud day.

Last week at work, I knew I overheard my co-worker and boss talking about going to the Patriots game Sunday. I just knew it. Today, my co-worker was near hoarse and I asked her why she was so hoarse. She tells me it was from going to the Legion to watch the series last night and all the screaming. Then I hear her on the phone with her daughter talking about being at the game yesterday. I mean, I sit 10 feet away from her max, duh.

I am mad that they went without me. I am sure they only had the two tickets for whatever reason, and no big deal, I'm only part-time, whatever, take the full-timer. But the fact that they're hiding it from me and lying to me is really bothering me. It really hurts.

I had just started feeling a little more "welcome" there in my department and then this happens.

Add to this that there is this new time clock system at work and for the last two weeks I have my boss up my butt because of my hours. I only work 20 hours (though i usually work over and just don't get paid for it) and i told her when they installed this clock, my time was never going to be exact and she was just going to have to round it off to the 20 hours because I wasn't going to sit there next to the clock and wait for it to hit 9 o'clock every day. I am so not used to "punching a clock", haven't had to since I was a kid working in the supermarket for Pete's sake. Today I was in foul enough a mood that I made no bones about my annoyance at the whole situation when she came over to tell me my hours showed I was there for 21 1/2 hours last week. Hey, keep the hour and a half extra, seriously! Last week, she freaked out because one day the clock showed I swiped my card at 11:30, yeah, the day they were trying to figure out why my card didn't work??? I get grief if I come in 5 minutes late, I get grief if I show up early. But yet, the full-timers (including the boss) can go out for long lunches and come back buzzed, and that's okay. And I've been the boss before, and I know the pressures with overtime costs, etc. All I want is to be treated equally.

I really, really need a new job.

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 11:09pm
Aww, I'm so sorry...you have had a crappy day time of it at work. I don't have anything helpful to say, but ((HUGS))
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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 9:15am
Tara,

Hugs!! I know all too well how you feel! I am excluded in everything here at work...in fact EVERYONE else knows about the Christmas Party but ME. Last week the owner of our company calls and asks everyone BUT ME to go to lunch! What was said "you don't mind, do you?" I have decided that I am going to look for another job full force come January. I figure the holiday's are coming up and I will most likley get a bonus at the end of the year so why not wait till the 1st of the year. I don't feel apart of this company either!

Lori

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 9:31am
HUGS Tara...jobs can be so frustrating, especially when you work for someone who's kind of a jerk. Try not to take it on yourself...it's her not you.

I hope you find something great.

Candi

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 9:38am
That stinks that you feel so left out and that they do not appreciate you and are treating you like that. A big hug for you today and a little sprinkle of good luck to find something better...
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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 10:44am

Time to start job hunting in earnest huh Tara? I hope you do and I hope you get something GREAT in a department that's wonderful and filled with good people. This certainly does sound like a danged if you do, danged if you don't kind of situation.


I am sorry you got the brush off by your co-workers and they didn't even have the guts to be honest with you. That's pretty pathetic, IMO.


Hugs!!!!!

Becky

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 11:26am
Aww, hugs, Tara. Really. I feel your pain. I'm not happy with mine either. I'm making no money. I know I'm in a competitive market and it's hard to get started, but I had a meeting this morning that made me cry as I got in the car to leave. They tell me I'm telling them nothing they haven't heard already and seem offended that I wasted their time. What do I do? I want to be home with my children, but I need to get some income and have something that is just mine. I hate being home alone. I am thinking of quitting and just going to school. That's what my true dream is. Just to go to school and have that degree...even if I never use it. But I know I would.

I hate how bosses stay on your butt. I know sometimes they have to if you're not doing your job, but to get unraveled over a measly hour and a half? Not cool. Not at all.

Stick to your guns, girl. If you hate it, look elsewhere. Don't stay there and be miserable if you don't have to. There is bound to be something better out there.

Mel

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 1:15pm
Tara,

I'm so sorry you're having such a bad experience at work. They should not have lied to you, that is so highschool! Have you tried letting them know that you caught them in a lie? A simple question to your co-worker such as "Did I just hear you say you went to that game...hmmm, I thought you said you were somewhere else." I know it’s petty, but pay back is sometimes.

As for the clock hours, in your boss’s defense, it is illegal for a company to NOT pay you for hours worked. If you are paid by the hour, you can not waive your rights to pay for work performed. Once you've worked, approved or not, they must pay you...which is probably why they are telling you not to do clock in early.

I would talk to your boss and see if they are open to making some changes for you. Give them a chance to make it better and if they don’t, then start looking.

Hugs!

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 1:25pm

Tara, I'm so sorry.

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 1:30pm

Maggie, just a thought, maybe it's because they know you won't be gossipy and catty with them and you "kill their fun" by being so danged nice! In that case, they can shove it.


Hugs to both of you. I never deal with that stuff. Boss's wife is the only other female here and she and I are pretty close. Other than that, the guys will sometimes ask me to lunch or bring me something. They're very nice here. I've none of those issues.


Now, if I could just figure out how to get the shop guy to NOT cry when I have to let him know he's stepped over a line, everything would be ok. ick! (see Candi, I CAN be a meanie. ;)

Becky

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 1:41pm

Bec, you could be exactly right!

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