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| Mon, 10-25-2004 - 10:59pm |
Last week at work, I knew I overheard my co-worker and boss talking about going to the Patriots game Sunday. I just knew it. Today, my co-worker was near hoarse and I asked her why she was so hoarse. She tells me it was from going to the Legion to watch the series last night and all the screaming. Then I hear her on the phone with her daughter talking about being at the game yesterday. I mean, I sit 10 feet away from her max, duh.
I am mad that they went without me. I am sure they only had the two tickets for whatever reason, and no big deal, I'm only part-time, whatever, take the full-timer. But the fact that they're hiding it from me and lying to me is really bothering me. It really hurts.
I had just started feeling a little more "welcome" there in my department and then this happens.
Add to this that there is this new time clock system at work and for the last two weeks I have my boss up my butt because of my hours. I only work 20 hours (though i usually work over and just don't get paid for it) and i told her when they installed this clock, my time was never going to be exact and she was just going to have to round it off to the 20 hours because I wasn't going to sit there next to the clock and wait for it to hit 9 o'clock every day. I am so not used to "punching a clock", haven't had to since I was a kid working in the supermarket for Pete's sake. Today I was in foul enough a mood that I made no bones about my annoyance at the whole situation when she came over to tell me my hours showed I was there for 21 1/2 hours last week. Hey, keep the hour and a half extra, seriously! Last week, she freaked out because one day the clock showed I swiped my card at 11:30, yeah, the day they were trying to figure out why my card didn't work??? I get grief if I come in 5 minutes late, I get grief if I show up early. But yet, the full-timers (including the boss) can go out for long lunches and come back buzzed, and that's okay. And I've been the boss before, and I know the pressures with overtime costs, etc. All I want is to be treated equally.
I really, really need a new job.

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That is SOOO painful to see something like that Maggie. I am sorry you had to, though there's no harm in knowing someone's true colors.
Things like that are why I've almost always worked with all men...and never did well with the "in crowd" when
But when the HR department gets together for their meetings, social functions etc...guess who we are talking about? heh heh! It's kind of funny how much they THINK we don't know. We know everything. We are everywhere... (evil laugh)
Tell me if I’m totally off base here, but I’m painting a picture of a women who is very good at what she does, gets her job done well, is ridiculously happy in love with her awesome new hubby, and has successfully managed to lose a ton of weight and look fantastic! Could it just be jealousy? They are sure spending enough of their own time and energy on you. They’ve got to find something wrong with you. You can’t be perfect! Surely, others think this too right? They’ve got to know!
Don’t give their comments and activity two seconds of your time. It’s not worth it. You are above that!
LOL!!!
I know, it stinks doesn't it? For whatever the reason. And I have such a small office and small department, I guess I thought it would be different. But it's not.
I am of the attitude that I'm just going to do my job and stop thinking of these ladies as anything more than co-workers.
Oh, and today, my boss actually asked me if something was wrong. i lied and said I was just having a really bad period and wasn't feeling good. What was I going to say, "I know you and so and so lied and went to a football game without me and you're up my butt lately and I don't appreciate it"? ha. No. So I lied.
Oh well. As soon as the holidays are come and gone and I see if the Patriots make it to the playoffs and maybe I get tickets again this year, hey it's a perk, I'm looking seriously.
Hope you're doing okay where you are. Sending a hug!
Tara
I totally understand the legality of the thing. I've been on the other end, like I said. But the other women punch in early, and noone says anything. I feel like I'm being harrassed. I really don't think it's intentional but who knows. Today, like I said in another post my boss asked me if everything was okay. I really couldn't say " Oh how was the game Sunday night?" She sleeps with the president of the company. ;p And for those of you who don't know, my company is owned by the person who owns the Patriots so this is one of those work perks, that we so rarely get. If it was just drinks after work or something, I could care less. But it was a "company thing" and last year the two games that they went to, I got excluded from also. I only got to go to the Playoffs when I bought my own ticket.
It's just a place to get a paycheck from now until I find something better.
Done thinking of them as my "friends".
:)
Tara
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