I know how those ghosts from the past can haunt you, when you are in a situation where it feels familiar. Your fears get activated, like you are reliving that hell all over again?
I think its much like experiencing the horrors in a haunted house. You never forget. Then even when the bad monsters go away the memories are still there. If you go back to that house you still are afraid of the scary things you experienced before. Maybe Builder will get it if you let him know that sometime. That its not his fault but that you have ghosts and your working on them.
I once told BE why I wig out so bad sometimes when something reminds me being "left alone". I told him about how I was literally left alone a lot as a kid and that fear of " abandonment" gets triggered sometimes as an adult. He was thankful that I told him, so now he can understand my knee jerk reactions sometimes and we can deal with those.
hey, I really wanted to post this morning but i had no time before work, because something similar happened to me yesterday - yeah on the same day as all my nerves and excitement re the ring - I had also texted him and called him with no reply and it was many hours before I heard from him - and was starting to worry too.
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I know how those ghosts from the past can haunt you, when you are in a situation where it feels familiar. Your fears get activated, like you are reliving that hell all over again?
I think its much like experiencing the horrors in a haunted house. You never forget. Then even when the bad monsters go away the memories are still there. If you go back to that house you still are afraid of the scary things you experienced before. Maybe Builder will get it if you let him know that sometime. That its not his fault but that you have ghosts and your working on them.
I once told BE why I wig out so bad sometimes when something reminds me being "left alone". I told him about how I was literally left alone a lot as a kid and that fear of " abandonment" gets triggered sometimes as an adult. He was thankful that I told him, so now he can understand my knee jerk reactions sometimes and we can deal with those.
hey, I really wanted to post this morning but i had no time before work, because something similar happened to me yesterday - yeah on the same day as all my nerves and excitement re the ring - I had also texted him and called him with no reply and it was many hours before I heard from him - and was starting to worry too.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
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