really weird dream

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really weird dream
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Mon, 09-22-2008 - 12:31pm

You ever have one of those very vivid dreams that you remember details about and it sticks with you all day?


JH

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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 12:49pm

Yes - he was meaning football when he said "you love to talk about this stuff".

JH

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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 1:11pm

I think that is a very honest and thoughtful email. I like how mentioned that its just that you need a check point now and then. That's a good way of saying it! I htink guys need to know that we're not getting all needy and psycho on them just because we need some validation now and then. Its just like you said...and occasional checkpoint!


And I also like how you write that you are happy with him now- and you're not anything to change. But that you are owning your own feelings and ghosts and just want to put them to rest so you can move forward feeling sure and safe.


You know? I just got to thinking that maybe SS's love language is "quiality time together" ...meaning he is showing love by doing things with you rather using words per se. Thats really great, but you are needs some words of affirmation!


I once tried to explain the love the love languages to BE and he just got kind of glassy eyed and confused so I'm not sure I'd even go there with SS lol! But at least YOU know there are differences in how people give and recieve love and validation.


I think the email is good. I personally have a hard time even admitting that I get insecure, but your email is really honest and I can't see how he would not respond warmly to it...


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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 1:14pm

I don't want to be pushy but I guess I need to be more aggressive.

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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 1:18pm

Do you think I should send it?


Your 100% right about "quality time" being his love language - it's high on mine too.

JH

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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 1:23pm

When you find courage in the grocery store, let me know what aisle to look in, ok??

JH

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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 1:38pm

I would. Although knowing my guy I would probably eliminate the dream stuff because he would not find it as relevant as the nittly gritty so to speak. And

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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 1:39pm

Tiara,


I love, love the email.

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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 1:40pm

Hopefully it isn't too dumb an idea.


Its a great idea!!!! I love it! You could even throw in some silly ones to make it fun. I just might do this for BE when the day comes around :o)

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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 1:55pm

Ha!

JH

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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 2:03pm

I tell him hearing him brush his teeth gets me hot so he'll call while he's doin that - asking me if I want him to do it faster


LMAO!!! You guys are too funny!! So OK, how about seeing how the tone is tonight and then say I didnt mean to freak you out last night. I just have a couple things I'd like to share. Then ask if would like it by phone or by email?


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