Resentment
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Resentment
| Sat, 01-05-2008 - 10:04am |
I was reading different posts yesterday and Mark made a comment that made me think about resentment. I had never really thought about it too much, but after his comment it really made me realize how much resentment I have towards my ex. This is something I need to work on big time, but how do you work on something like that? Do you make a list or what?

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& back to the clock thing.
I feel for you - & for any woman who wants children & cant have them b/c of medical reason, or any women who hasnt found someone TO have them with. But, i will tell you a couple things ... 35 ISNT that "old" these days. Yes, teh clock is ticking, but i have SO SO SO many 37-38 yr old having 1st babies. Here tonite in fact, my pt is 36 & its her 1st. Also, things happen, or dont, for a reason. Would i turn the clock back & NOT have had my dd, NO WAY.
I haven't read the other posts, so sorry if I'm repeating myself.
Resentment: Been there, done that. Until I realized, I wouldn't change the way things are. I was resentful towards my X husband for not telling me he didn't want a child and let us plan one and get me pregnant. BUT, the point is, I probably would have divorced him knowing he never wanted one. So it ended up me divorcing him because I wanted to keep my baby. I was angry, but not resentful, because I had the second child, but I do still get upset that I could have had a second child with someone who wanted one. However, it is what it is and what is done is done. I've learned to forgive and move on.
Sometimes with Alex' father, I still feel I have resentment and then I think about it and realize, it's not resentment, just anger about that person and how I have allowed them to walk over me. I'm just angry at him not paying support all those years and feeling he now has rights, but still doesn't pay. I'm just angry for not being left alone. I have forgiven and thanked God that I'm no longer with that person and that I was smart enough to realize that. But I'm not resentful, because I love my kids and wouldn't change that.
So I think it's a big difference sometimes if you are truly only angry or if you really are resentful.
Rebecca, it's
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