Roll call and what are you looking for?
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Roll call and what are you looking for?
| Thu, 04-26-2007 - 8:56am |
Hi to all:
Wow our board has been rocking and rolling right along. We have all situations and stages of dating right now and that makes it so exciting for me and everyone to log on.
I was thinking we haven't done a roll call in a while. Tell us
- your age
- how many kids and their age
- what part of the world you live in (okay to skip or give approximate if you like)
- how long on your own
- who is your ideal dating partner and what you are looking for - or if you found him - what you like about him and how you met
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This will be interesting because I haven't been on the board for awhile to see who is on and who isnt'.
My name is Catherine, my age 35, I have two girls ages 13 and 6, North Carolina, I've been on my own for 6 years, I'm still trying to figure out the ideal partner bit. I thought I knew when I had it served on a silver platter for me, but then I knew I needed much more and I began to re-evaluate. Can't wait to hear what everyone else says.
I am 45 and have one son who is 11 and we live in the Southern world. I have been divorced for almost 7 years. Have had some meaningful relationships with good people and dated quite a bit, although not so much lately.
I used to think I was looking for my soulmate. Now I am so happy by myself that I am looking for an activity partner to be my friend first doing things we find mutually exclusive and see if something happens over time. I think that is more sane and appealing to me now. I am starting a little OLD but still trying the hardest to meet someone in real life. I would like to find someone close by, active/fit who is a kind and stable and into me.
Here is mine... and nice to 'meet' the newbies here! (Lurkers too- unlurk!!!)
I'm Shrimpy (42 and proud of it), with boys, MonkeyButt (9.5 with cerebral palsy) and MonkeyBunny (7,lover of computer games) and we live in the TX panhandle.
I was married for almost 7 yrs before, now divorced for 5 yrs. Dated some immediately after the divorce, and then took a year or two OFF... and now I'm with Hiker, who I met online (match). He is 51 with 4 kids (3 grown DDs with various grandchildren for him, and 1 DS who is 14 and lives with him full-time). We have been dating since we met, 1.5 yrs ago (20 months, to be exact- lol) and things are moving slowly and wonderfully!
Neither one is rushing to get remarried (he was married for about 20 yrs, divorced for about 7 or 8 yrs now) but we are happy to be in a committedly dating relationship. He has been the most ideal partner for me because he lets me be me. I am comfortable with him, I can be my jabbering hyper self when I feel like it and he is fine with it. Or I can be my quiet self and he is fine with it as well. We can go out and get dirty on a long hike and it's okay, or we can get dressed up and see a live show and it's great, too. We can hang out at home and watch sports games. We can do 'family' things like having his kids (and grandkids) together with my kids and all hang out for dinner. We can make trips together. We share many of the same interests and likes, but not EVERYTHING is alike. We have our separate activities- and we respect each others' activities and never gets upset if the other is busy and can't make a date. We have a lifetime to date... so it's no biggie, is it? ;-)
He is a match for me because we share the same temperaments. He is easy-going (more so than I am) and lets me pick things... but he also steps in and picks things too- so I know I'm not just running the show by myself. It's just a nice balance! He likes holding hands as we go places. He opens doors for me. But in NO way does he treat me like I can't handle myself and need to be 'babied'.
He is stable, responsible, healthy, friendly, caring, gentle, sexy, funny... all rolled into one. He is adventurous enough to get me out of my comfort zone, but not so much of an extreme thrill-seeker that I feel out of my league. There are things I'm more daring at trying than he is, and vice versa... so again- a good balance.
We both love to eat and try out new foods. We both love to travel and see new places. We both put our kids first. We both value education. We both handle our money the same way. We both take care of our "stuff" the same way (don't replace/upgrade anything unless/until the old one is broken or TRULY outdated).
He is just the best match of anyone I've ever known. That's my Hiker, my Treasure. :-)
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I was thinking we haven't done a roll call in a while. Tell us
- your age...34
- how many kids and their age...2 kids. Ages 7 and 2
- what part of the world you live in (okay to skip or give approximate if you like)...East Texas
- how long on your own...1.5 years the first time...just a few days this time.
- who is your ideal dating partner and what you are looking for - or if you found him - what you like about him and how you met...Ideal partner is someone who will understand me and realize that baggage is just a part of it and that it has nothing to do with them. I want romance and fun, but freedom to be me.
~Mel~
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- your age
45 years young.
- how many kids and their ages
3 Kids a DD 28yo, a DS 24yo, and a DD living with me 13 going on 30.
2 Grandbabies, a 7yo cuitie GDD from my 28yoDD who is expecting a baby boy
sometime in June- yay more grandbabies, and a GDS who is 10 months. The grandbabies
are the light and loves of my life. All fun-no work.
- what part of the world you live in (okay to skip or give approximate if you like)
Staten Island, NY
- how long on your own
Next month, 11 years divorced-Yay!
First of all, I'm totally discusted by OLD, but it's the only method I have to meet anyone,problem is that I never meet anyone as they always ghost on me. It always shocks me to read that you ladies actually meet real people. In 3 years of OLD I've only met 2 men from it (Creeps). The dozens of others-poof.
If I ever meet someone, I want a long term, casual relationship. I don't want marriage nor do I ever want again to live with someone. He should be smart and fun, I'm very liberal on my requirements for the superficial stuff, but he must be a nice, responsible person with a kind heart. Very tall order, as in my part of the country if you're not young and skinny, it's super hard to attract anyone. When I travel to other parts of the USA, I'm a goddess, but here in NY I'm practically non-existant. I've made peace with the fact that I may never meet anyone, and I'm ok with that, as I have made a full life for myself. I just have a very hard struggle having any type of social life, I know that I need to work on that. Other than that, I'm good.
kids and their age: 7 & 2
part of the world you live in: Southern California
how long on your own: 6 months
ideal dating partner and what you are looking for: Someone who likes to have fun and do new things, someone funny and smart, good looking always helps ;) I think I would just like to have someone who plays together well with others.
I'm 31 years old
I have one daughter who is 10, but likes to think she in an adult :)
We live in the midwest
I have been divorced for 5 years
I have been with my BF for 3 months now, and so far things are going great.
Kristy
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Wel, I lurk more than I actually post, but I'll go ahead and sign in here.
- your age
34
- how many kids and their age
5... DD14, DS12, DS7, DD4, DD2
- what part of the world you live in (okay to skip or give approximate if you like)
East Coast
- how long on your own
seperated in Nov 2004... final divorce Oct 2006... got back in the dating scene circa July 06.
- who is your ideal dating partner and what you are looking for
I've been thinking about this... and honestly I'm looking for a younger guy; eye candy would be nice, too...lol; a sweatheart; someone who appreciates me; someone honest and attentive. Not really looking for a serious commitment, but someone who enjoys the sames things I do; and someone who stimulates my intellect, too; someone who doesn't try to monopolize my time. Understands that my children keep me busy but that when I go out, I like to relax, wind down, party.... in others words... a stress-free kinda guy.
Loonybunny
I love this!
I just turned 39. I am the very proud mother of two gorgeous dd's 5&3. We live just outside of Toronto, Canada. My stbx and I are in the mediation stages of our separation agreement right now. He left in Nov and we tried reconciling a number of times since. The house is now sold and I move into my new place in two weeks. YIPPEE!
My ideal partner....that is a tough one. I am not sure that I ever want to marry again and maybe not even live with anyone. My marriage was an abusive one so I am really looking forward to regaining my independence. The next man lucky enough to be a part of my life needs to treat me with total respect and have a strong desire to pamper me. He needs to accept that my daughters come will always come first and he needs to have his own interests and be okay with the fact that I need "me" time.
He needs to be fun loving, a little spontaneous and definitely needs to look at the glass as being "half full". I will try to avoid cynical, critical people at all costs.
Great thread!
Rose
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