Roll call time!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Roll call time!
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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 9:37pm

Ok everyone,


I'm seeing so many new faces, I think a new roll call is in order.


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Registered: 01-21-2003
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 9:44pm

Michelle(29) and Angelle(9) from Lafayette, LA.'

I left A's dad when she was about 5. We weren't married. I have dated on and off and I was engaged about 3 years ago and the guy bailed to marry someone else. Talk about a low blow. Anyway, I am over that. Just looking for the right guy.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 9:46pm
OUCH, Michelle!

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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 10:02pm

Tina (25) Andrew (7) and Catie (almost 5 going on 15), kitty Smokey and kitty Mickey, turtle..turtle doesn't have a name, aren't we awful?!
We're in Upstate NY, I'm trying to date, only as most of you know, the guy I would really like to be dating isn't cooperating (yet)... I'm new at this.
So, I'm divorced, been single for what seems like forever, but in all actuality I was in a LTR about 6 months ago, and have only ever been in serious relationships that moved very quickly.
Might be why I'm having such a hard time waiting for a phone call, hmmm?

Dwell, me, never!!


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Registered: 01-21-2003
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 10:10pm
Know what you mean by waiting for phone calls. I think guys do that to torture women. LOL
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Registered: 06-04-2004
In reply to: cl_alison
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 11:13pm

Hey- I'm the latest newbie here! ;-)

Shrimpy (41), with 2 ds's (8.5 & 6), a sheltie (1.5), a cat (2) and a turtle (not sure HOW old he is, but we've had him since 2002 & he was tiny then)- all living in the TX panhandle (with the panhandle in the FIRE, lately).

I was married for almonst 7 yrs, divorced for 4 yrs now. Ex got remarried 4 mos ago, and the kids are down with them for Spring Break this week. I miss my kids but I'm also loving the kid-free time since they are with me about 95% of the year.

I'm currently dating my Hiker-man that I met online. If you type in "Hiker" on the DASP board, you can practically see everything I've ever posted about him and us (yikes on that in some ways). We've been dating for over 6 months and going great. We're just taking it slow and enjoying each other's company! I'd like to get remarried again one day and so would he, but for now, neither one of us are looking for that altar run. I like things JUST the way they are. I could cruise at this altitude for quite awhile. :-)

I'm a girl who's hooked on sudoku, cross-stitching, rubber stamping and reading. I'm a nurse and former paramedic who is now working part-time with the local nursing school. Anything else you want to know, just ask. ;-)

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 7:01am

Hey Alison,

This is a great idea!! And yes, we do encourage any discussions about life, kids, dating, etc - both as a single mom and also for single dads - we have Lizardance and Softballs visit us from time to time and they have great perspectives on the other side.

Anyway, I am Judy living in FL - 44 - have one son who is about to be 10. I was married for 10 years and have been divorced for 5 coming up this summer. After my divorce I dated quite a bit with OLD and some from real life. The past 3 years I have been in a "dating fast" - just got sick of all the drama and bad apples online. Have been developing myself and keeping my eyes open.

I welcome everyone - it is great to see so many new faces and to have our DASP visitors!!

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Registered: 08-20-2004
In reply to: cl_alison
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 9:18am

Hey all,

Also a major DASP poster, but it's always nice to meet new people. I actually didn't even know this board existed until a little while ago. :) I have two children, DD, "Snickers" (6) and DS "Woobie" (23 months).

As most of you have probably read my OLD post, I am in the process of attempting to find a serious relationship as I spent the last 4-ish years getting everything all together. I am now settled and going to school as full time towards a degree in computer networking. I take as many classes as I can manage and still be able to afford day care and be home with my children. It's working well for me so far.

I have a bit of an unusual situation, as I was in an incredibly controlling/emotionally and sexually abusive relationship. When I finally got up the courage to leave him, his health was failing (he was a diabetic who refused to take care of himself) and though I was not expecting it to happen as soon as it did, he died 3 years ago of a massive heart attack.

Immediately (and I mean immediately) after that, I slept with my guy best friend. I had been separated from my husband and living on my own for a year at this point, but still not divorced as my husband was fighting it every step of the way. I was his possession after all and he refused to let me go easily.

The problem was that even though my son's father is a very normal caring guy, he was unhappily married (his wife had previously had an affair and she is just not a very nice person and I am not just saying that) so I should have never slept with him. And although we care for each other very much, we did not end up together because he decided he wanted to make things work with his wife for his own children's sake. I could not do anything but accept and respect his decision. The choice dictated to him by his wife was that he could get full custody of the baby and never see me again nor allow me any parental rights, or he could let me have full custody of the baby and he would terminate all of his parental rights. After months of broken hearted teary-eyed discussions between us, we decided that for the best of all the children involved, that I would keep the baby and he would let us go. His children do not know what happened, and neither do mine. We also both knew that his wife would never be able to accept a child from he and I as her own. She isn't the type of person who could do that. I stayed at my job until after the baby was born, for insurance reasons, and then I moved because I knew if I lived near him, neither he nor I would be able to keep him from seeing our child and that would only damage both of us further and continue to jeopardize his already rocky marriage. If they were ever to heal from this I could not be involved with him in any way, shape or form, so he and I hesitantly and painfully stumbled away from each other.

Which leaves me where I am right now, lesson harshly learned, and very happy not to be contributing to any more emotional pain of myself or to them, though still a little heartbroken for my son.

Anyway, so that's my story and it's nice to meet you all.
--snow

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Registered: 12-10-2003
In reply to: cl_alison
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 10:01am
Lisa (31) with DD7 Haille and DS3 Lukas...we are currently pet free but in the past year have possessed one very large dog, a small fish, a hamster, a snake and sadly we just lost our cat which I am finding difficult to replace. I am not currently dating but just kind of sticking my toe in the water, i do not want a "serious" relationship but I am enjoying the water! My divorce was recently final although I have been separated over 2 years from an abusive/alcoholic H. It has been an incredible journey of self discovery and I love being on my own, independant and am still finding myself, I love being wiht my kids and see us grow as a family. Its funny becasue when I first separated I thought I was "ready" becasue of the emotional distacne I had put between me adn H but the longer it was the more I realized I just wanted to be by myself and enoy that...thats not to say I dont enjoy flirting adn having a guy appreciate me but I wanted to prove I can be alone and be happy before I was happy wiht someone else. Anyway...I like posting here adn hope to keep it up even though I get pretty busy wiht life and all!
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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: cl_alison
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 10:52am
Taina (44), Two adults dd, 27, ds 23 and a 12yo dd still at home. I live in Staten Island, NY and work as a Human Resources Professional in Midtown, NYC. I do ocassional free-lance, plus size model work as well. I've been divorced 10 years now, I had a bf for 3 years, and we split up over 2 years ago. No dates on the horizon, belive it or not NYC is a tough place to meet men if you're not young and slim. It's very youth biased here. I don't want a serious relationship, I've been married and divorced twice. I don't ever see myself married or living with someone. I just wouldn't mind having a bf or a special fwb to have fun with. Easier said then done-lol! I'm way too busy concentrating on myself and through the years, I've really learned to love my own company. I just don't have the patience to put up with man crap anymore. I don't know if it's just me or as you get older the things you'll put up with lessens as the years go by. I don't want to deal with anyone's anoying habbits, except my own.
The T Girl
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Registered: 06-04-2004
In reply to: cl_alison
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 1:33pm

LOL Taina- you sound like me. I don't put up with "man crap" anymore either! I SOO don't have time for that! I'm currently dating, but I get no man crap from him, so I'm keepin' him. ;-)

LOL... too funny!! I've never heard it put that way before, but it's so true!

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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