The Root of all Evil
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|Fri, 07-02-2010 - 9:15pm|
Just wanted to check in and not be the one who only posts rosy happy messages... A and I have been at it about money a lot lately... blah. We have always had a strange sort of competition...we make very simliar salaries and always compare YTD who is highest... but I just made some moves that freed up some cash for me to knock out the rest of the credit cards so that I can finally move forward, and he is acting almost resentful of me. This also happend when I got a very large bonus in May. I think he deep down wants to be the breadwinner (a man thing) but instead of thinking of us as a team and knowing that my money helps us both, he is looking at it as "tara vs. drew". ugh.
we got into a fight... he is short this week and i happened to have a boatload of cash come thru to finish off these credit cards. He thought this should be an exemption for his child support (the first time in 10 months he has even approached that topic). I told him he could cut it down a bit cause I was in good shape and he got very angry... called me greedy that I am nickel and diming him. Well, I admit, I could easily have said i didnt need it this week, but I do not want to set that precedent. The money I have is to PAY OFF MY CARDS, its not money to blow.
we had an argument, and how it ended was me telling him instead of paying his support this week, to get me formula and diapers and we'd call it even. he brought that over as well as some other things for GiGi that I didnt ask for, so I'm ok with is. This one week. But I really need to figure out how to get us on the same page - that we plan to marry and buy a house and he should not be resenting my success or money... especially when he had a scum sucker xw who tries to suck every cent out of him... he should appreciate someone who works hard and contributes