Rough Week
Find a Conversation
| Fri, 03-30-2007 - 10:14pm |
... but Hiker comes through for me. :-)
Last weekend one of my brothers came to visit with his new girlfriend (dating since New Year's, met on Match in Dec.) and they stayed at my house. She slept in the guest room, and my brother slept on the couch in the living room. We had a couple of dinners out with all the family (her meeting the parents already- yikes but he's already met all of hers) and then for lunch on Saturday, Hiker and I did a double-date thing with them. It was fun.
But I was also exhausted by Sunday afternoon after everything was over, and they took off back for home. I'd totally forgotten that Hiker and I had planned on having him come over on Sunday evening! I'd called him on Sunday, late afternoon and got caught up with how the rest of his weekend went, and completely forgot our plans! I didn't realize it until later, when I was heading off to bed! Yikes! He never said anything when we talked on the phone! Did he forget too??
Turns out, he remembered, and was looking forward to it, but heard how tired I was sounding on the phone and when I didn't mention him coming over that night, he let it drop. I told him on Monday I was sorry for forgetting him but he said it was okay. Said he could tell how tired I was. (Gotta love this man!)
Then we made plans to go out to dinner on Thursday evening. I was going to take the kids to my parents for a few hours so we could go eat. But Thursday ended up being a day from he!!, including my Dad accidentally letting our dog out of the yard... and she is GONE. Can't find her anywhere. With a "sighting" later that afternoon by a neighbor, but when we went to the area to look for her, I never could spot her to even try catching her or bringing her back home. And then MonkeyButt throws up in the van as we were out driving around, trying to find her. Ugh... I was wiped out from the day. So I had to call Hiker and cancel our dinner plans since I was upset, plus MonkeyButt was possibly sick and I wasn't going to leave him at my parents for Dad to watch (Mom is still quite sick).
And again, Hiker isn't upset that our plans got cancelled again. But this time, he didn't want to 'miss me' again- so he offered to just pick up some sushi and dessert and bring it over. So we could still have dinner together, even though we couldn't go out for it. So anyway, he brings the food over and I eventually get the kids to bed. Then we ate. Had fun eating, and he brings out the dessert. We had a delicious time devouring that too (Starbucks Mud Pies, if you ever get the chance to have one). Then he gives me a footrub as we just lounge and watch some tv. It was VERY nice to have him there, just to take care of me and ease that crazy day of mine. He even recharged me enough that we got in a bit of physical fun before the evening was over.
I just had to gush a bit though... that he is just THE most perfect man for me. He has been supportive of me as I'm dealing with all SORTS of stressors with my family stuff- and he doesn't push or pull or back off or anything. He doesn't demand more of my time because he knows I'm already stretched. He doesn't get upset, he doesn't get offended, he doesn't get whiny. But he also tries to be around now & then when he thinks I might just need him to be around. So far he has done NOTHING but score a million points on everything. How does he KNOW?!?? I've dated SO many clueless men in my past and I am blown away by how Hiker is. Who ever knew someone like him existed?!? And to think, I found him in the middle of the sea of creeps and weird ones on Match.
So things are not any better with the family stuff (Mom is still sick, we still don't know how much time she has left) and the dog (still missing and haven't heard ANYTHING) but Hiker has helped to make it much easier to handle. Just by not being demanding or whiny or whatever. He is just there when he needs to be or can be, and he isn't forcing himself into the picture to try to get attention (when I know he isn't getting too much attention lately). And he isn't freaked out by everything happening and backing away because he doesn't know what to do. So while my week has been something I want to call "do over!" on... I'm also feeling very blessed because of Hiker. He really has helped to make it okay. I am soooo in love with him for who he is and how he is. :-)
But really... pray that someone finds our dog and brings her home. And pray that Mom starts eating better, even though I really do feel this is The End for her, just not sure how long it will take. It's a very slow-going road (not that I want it to go faster) but unfortunately it's a declining road, not an upturning one. :-(
~shrimpy, with praises and prayers and mixed blessings

shrimpy, I'm praying for you- for your mom and for the dog. I hope things don't get too rough for your mom before the end. I think you're doing beautifully- I know how hard it is!
I hope your dog comes home soon, and safe.
what a man that Hiker is! He's worth his weight in Platinum! I'm so glad you have him, especially through these hard times.
Moody, praying for you
Powered by CGISpy.com
Thanks Moody. I think I'm doing better today mentally and emotionally, thankfully. The funk I was in all week was not making me a good mom for the kids! It's also good that PMS week is wrapping up too- and as much as I hate to use "PMS" as an excuse or crutch or whatever... I have felt like it has been an emotional factor ever since my last child was born. Before that, PMS week never seemed to have ANY effect on me. There must be something hormonal happening because it's not like I TRY to make things go bad. I just notice how intolerant and impatient I am after things have already happened and I look back on it.
But anyway, I've put much of the events happening, into God's hands. There really isn't anything I can do to change anything significantly, other than to just make sure everything else is still taken care of despite the bad stuff.
Thanks for the prayers,
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
~<
Oh my goodness, Shrimps, I am so sorry to hear of this news. I do hope they find your dog!! I cannot imagine losing one of mine - that is most upsetting. Hopefully a neighbor took her in and you find her very soon. And the story about your mom is so heartbreaking. I hope that you can enjoy the time you have left and that things work out okay. It is so scary!!
Keep us posted, okay?
And yes, Hiker is the perfect gentleman and the perfect one for you. I love to read a story when it works out like this. Cannot offer enough Bravos for the ways you have worked stuff out. I can remember the first post when you took a road trip and it all worked out so wonderful.
I am so happy to hear Hiker is so amazing. You deserve it. You will need the support he provides with expert intuition. I can tell you how special he is, because he has many of the traits I wish Teacher had. Such as not pulling away. Teacher never seems to know what to say or do. Although he has hung in there with me through some tough times.
I will say prayers the dog returns or is found, did you make flyers, etc? And many more prayers for your mom, you, and the rest of your family. E-mail me directly if you ever want to chat...ok?