Saw this one coming a mile away...

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Saw this one coming a mile away...
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Thu, 11-13-2008 - 12:49pm

So Irish's psycho ex has gone through all of his emails and gotten my first and last name, where I work, and my phone number.


OH YAY!


She actually made threats to him about things she would do if he didn't do "x. y, z". Like hunt me down at work and stuff like that. One of the demands was that he go to one counseling session with her. I was like well there's nothing wrong with that. Hell I'd even offer her three.. but after that I'd be like you're on your own! Next was that he had to take the kids every weekend, and come visit 2 nights a week. When

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Thu, 11-13-2008 - 9:54pm
Michelle!!! I know you don't want to hear this but no good can come of this. You don't need this drama in your life. You deserve better!!!
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Fri, 11-14-2008 - 3:24pm
Yah we had a brief talk... told him tht he needed some time to sort this all out and I really can't or shouldn't be a part of it all. I said I didn't want to stop seeing him.. but we need to just take ten huge steps back. So.. hes trying to make it clear to the ex that he's dating around and I'm just one of the women he's dated.. which is true. And Irish and I will see eachother on Dec. 6th.. I bought tickets to a show, have a sitter set up, AND have a back up date just in case LOL.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 12:48am
If you really feel he's worth it give it a little more time but hun I see the red flags flying. But if he doesn't put his foot down cut him loose.
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Mon, 11-17-2008 - 1:26am

What kills me also is that this is a casual relationship! We're not even exclusive! I have to deal with all of this for casual? JEEZE!


NO NO you do not have deal with any of it! And you know that. But I would give him the boot. Tell him to hit you back up when his life is stable

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Registered: 11-20-2007
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 9:50am

"I am to mean and mouthy to be in a relationship like that hahaha."


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Mon, 11-17-2008 - 10:18am
me three! No freaking way would I deal with any of that.
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Mon, 11-17-2008 - 1:12pm

So small update here. We've texted here and there.. but no deep convos. I'm trying to keep it light and fun.


However, yesterday he called and had just dropped the his kids off back to the ex and was right around the corner (she does nto live far) and wanted to "replenish" as we call it. LOL... just wanting to see eachother basically. I'm kind of proud of him.. he took what I said and really rolled with it. But the problem here is that I can't be the one making the rules.. ya know? lol. Anyway.. first he said he may be getting full custody of the children.. that is in the works and a possibility. Also not only did he put his foot down about her coming to his house and going to his mother's house he now refuses to go anywhere near HER house! lol. He has demanded a neutral drop off/pick up point. Hopefully it won't always have to stay that way but I guess for now he feels he needs it.


Anyway.. I kept my mouth shut and let him tell me his update. I was obviously interested, but then with pure slickness changed the subject. He's not obsessive talking about his problems.. I just want to be very careful.


Oh, and here's a funny one. He's said before.. oh I was talking to my mom about you and... or, oh I was talking to my brother about you and....
Ok, well thats like super flattering ya know? Well, yesterday I got... I was talking to my ex about you and.... I was like woah wait a second, why are you guys talking about me? LOL. Omg, the girl is a loon. She's asking a million questions about me.. he says he's staying very aloof about it all which is good. So after he gave her the kids she said.. You're going over to see her now aren't you? (me) and he said well, yah. (he believes in brutal honesty to your face.. its refreshing and scary lol). So she just said some weird off the wall stuff that made no sense. I was just like umm ok? Something about getting me pregnant and

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Mon, 11-17-2008 - 1:20pm

Had to add to this story because minus all the baby mama drama Irish is just such a damn cutie!!!


Our hour spent together was basically me getting ready for work. So I was like c'mon if you want to hang out then you're going to have to sit and chat with me while I get ready for work. So he sat on the bed while I showered, I got dressed in the bathroom then invited him in. He sat on the toilet and just watched me put on my makeup, curl my hair, brush my teeth.. the works.


It was cute because he was all bashfull sitting on my bed and made a funny comment about finally making it into my bed LOL. I was like hey, you want to be spontaneous with me? Then you're just going to have to suck it up with whatever situation you get put into because I do NOT do sponaneous well! haha.


And then to connect the dots into another thread.. once I finished getting ready we had a little time to kill, he made a comment about his neck hurting and so we sat on the couch and I rubbed his neck for a bit. Then he tells me I'm to nice? Blah!


OH! I just looked down at the coffee table and had another update reminder haha. The fundraiser stuff from the girl's school came in the other day. And I have piles of crap around the living room that needs to be delivered. Well, I have a 12" long summer sausage on my coffee table. Irish was like "Woah.. having fun are we?" I about DIED! LOL

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Mon, 11-17-2008 - 2:17pm

Eeek- I would ask that he NOT talk to his psycho ex about me!


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