Scared to Approach...

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Scared to Approach...
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Fri, 06-03-2005 - 5:03pm

Hello Gals, I just read this on a popular posting board in our area under their personals section. Any thoughts, comments? Let's discuss :) (edited for censorship)

Scared to Approach

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Reply to: anon-76847661
Date: 2005-06-03, 1:27PM PDT

Girls, Ladies, Women,

When you see a guy you like and you feel you want to speak with him, don't just look a couple of times and give off some ambiguous hint. GO TALK. Open the conversation up. WE REALLY APPRECIATE IT. If a girl is friendly and open and slightly vulnerable, it is SOOOOOOOOOOOO Incredibly Sexy. There is nothing more attractive and sensous than a girl who is totally comfortable with herself and moves with ease through her life.

The ultimate turn off is some stuck up, unapproachable princess, who thinks she is the sh** and is blabbing on the phone with the loudest imaginable voice so that everyone can look at her and say...oooooh we forgive her stupidity and her shallowness because she dresses well and is pretty.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 06-04-2005 - 6:56am
That is a good article. I think it reminds us all to be humble and approachable in someone's eyes - particularly if it is a guy you like. The proverbial princess on the cell phone is probably one who has no self esteem or compassion towards other people.
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Registered: 03-04-2005
Sat, 06-04-2005 - 8:17pm

Personally, I thought that the first paragraph was ok but the second seemed a little hostile. It wasn't the message, but the tone put me off a bit. It made me question if this guy is one whose opinion I'd listen to anyway.

Incidentally, isn't that just the problem with the internet? All you have is words with no voice, no face, no other cues whatsoever. You have to determine the person's "tone" from words alone, which is much less reliable. I think that, for that reason, the words might get more emphasis and attention than they would if you were actually listening to the person. After all, most of the meaning in our messages is carried nonverbally.

Amy

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 2:38pm
This person sounds very young to me.