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| Fri, 05-18-2007 - 3:42pm |
Hello everyone, it's been a while since I have posted so I will give a bit of background on me. I am a single mother of two wonderful boys ages 12 and 7 (8 next month) and have been dating on and off for the last 8 yrs.
Ok, so in January, I decided to give OLD another shot and was pleasantly surprised at the new prospects. W/i the first week, I "met" J. We hit it off instantly. After communicating via yahoo for a couple of days, we moved on to emailing from our personal accounts and within the week were talking on the phone and set up a date to meet. The date went GREAT! We went bowling and then ducked into a cafe till about 2am...then we went back to his place (I know :( not smart, but it felt sooo right) He was the PERFECT gentleman. At around 5am, we started to nod off and he asked if he could take a 2hr nap before he drove me home and that he would sleep on his couch. I told him that if he behaved himself, he could sleep on HIS side of the bed and that is what we did. He dropped me off early in the morning and I kissed him! I KNOW!!! lol
Ever since then, we are constantly talking to eachother and see eachother 1 - 2x's (sometimes 3s's) a week because our schedules are VERY busy. 99% of the time, he initiates our dates...We have agreed to take it slow and just let things progress. We have been intimate and it is GREAT! He has also met my boys (they love him) and a few of my friends (who LOVE him too!)
When I have an off day, whether it is school, work, the boys, whatever it is, he is there to console me. We have planned a weekend getaway for July to go drive to Virginia (7 hrs). On Mon. night, we went out to eat and he was telling me that while he was on the train, a chick was hitting on him...lol...it happens (to both of us) and told me that he told her that his girl would not appreciate him spending time with another chick. Well, since we have not had the "talk" I just continued the conversation. Now in hindsight, I guess it would have been a good time to have that convo. LOL...Oh wells...
I have not met his parents (he was mentioning this week how he is embarrased to take anyone to their house because it is messy and cluttered) or any of his friends...though, the times that he does see his friends (very rarely), I am usually in school or can't get out because of other responsibilities.
I know that it has only been 3 1/2 months, but I know that I am falling for this man. Should I just give it more time and have the "talk" during our vacation or should I have initiate it soon because of the comment that he made this week.
Sorry it is sooo long and thx for reading. Any advice or opinions are much appreciated! :o)

I don't believe in love at first sight, exactly. I do, however believe that sometimes we can have the most amazing connections with people, and it doesn't take us long at all to know them, and to love them. Or hate them, for that matter.
I am not really a talk initiator, usually, but in your case, I don't think it would be a problem. If he's referring to you as his girl, I think he's thinking of you as such, but there's no reason not to clear the air.
Sometimes things go fast and its wild and out of control and scary, and eventually it burns itself out. Other times, things go fast but it's right and smooth and natural and easy. You know how this feels for you- and where your comfort level is.
Moody, wishing you all the best
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Thx Moody! I have been through sooo much in terms of relationships. Some good, a lot I'd rather forget.
I am still young yet I never thought that I could be this comfortable with someone. Yes it has only been a short period of time. However, usually by the 3 month mark I am a raving lunatic and sooo unhappy. lol
I will definately be having this talk soon to clear the air.
Thx for taking the time to respond.
Happy mom to 3 wonderful Boys and 1 pretty Girl!
This all sounds quite good to me - just let time take its course and keep doing what you are doing!
AND... keep us posted!!