Second date tonight

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Registered: 12-31-2006
Second date tonight
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 1:53pm
Hello all,
I meet this guy and we talked on the phone everyday for a week and then we went out the other night for a drink. It was really nice. We talk and he made me laugh. So tonight we are going to a movie. But this is were I need alittle help. I know I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket but I am confess about the signs that guys send, I think I am missing them. My sister says there are signs that a guy send. I new to all this and the last time I went on a date was with my ex.
I am starting over aftre 20 years so I really am confess.. I did date one guy before Christmas but only 2 times and I just didn't think we were right for each other. So with this new guy, I know we have a physical attraction to each other but how can you be sure you can Relate on other things?
He knows I have kids and ok with that, but his question threw me off. He ask if there was anyway I would rereconcile with my ex knowing we have been apart for 3 years. My sister said maybe that his way of wondering if he should start a relationship with me. That could be right. But dating is hard work. LOL And when your rusty at it.
So if anyone who has been where I am at, could you please give me some feedback about men and signs. Thank you all and I will give you an update after the movie. Have a great day. ;-)
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 3:44pm

Hey there! Enjoy your movie. I would wonder if I was talking about my ex too much if someone asked me that. Not saying you are, but that's how I would feel.
I think if he is asking you out for a second date, he wants to get to know you better. If he calls, asks you out with advanced notice, and is respectful, nice, and polite to the people around him (including you), those are good signs.
I'm still trying to figure men out (but aren't we all?!) and they are as different as we are. Just go with it, see how you feel, and try not to think too much. If you're having fun, it's a good thing. Get to know him, but don't expect anything more than that.

Moody, who is always trying not to think too hard


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Registered: 12-27-2006
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 9:53pm
I fell hard for someone this fall, and we saw each other for a couple of weeks. In the beginning he complained about his ex (had been divorced for 5+ years). At the end he defended her. I wish I had asked him if there was a chance he could, or would want to reconcile. What did you say when he asked you?
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 10:15pm

TIME will tell you everything. Give yourself lots of it before you get too stricken with him. Enjoy the moment and tell yourself this is a little test to see what you like and to experience the dating process.

Reading all the stories here on the board will teach you a LOT. And of course we want your opinion in them.

Dating has changed since 20 years ago. People are looking for someone to match their many interests, personality and situation. It takes time to get to know someone. And it takes time to find the right person who sees you as MsRight and treats you well.

The best advice I can give is to be selfish. Think more about what is right for you than what the guy wants. Take it slow. And have fun.

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Registered: 12-31-2006
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 12:56pm
Hello mary-wsi,
I told there was no way ever if I would go back to him. But this all has me confuse. This guy makes me feel alive and all these feelings are coming from every where. It scares me. I told him that and he told me I should be affaired. It is ok to feel like this. But trying not to put my eggs in one basket. I don't want to get hurt. But I think he likes me but I don't know. It seems like he is to good to be true. Maybe I am just THINKING TO MUCH. I do that. I just wished I knew. Thanks for listing. Have a great day.