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Second Wedding questions
| Tue, 08-24-2004 - 11:23am |
What do you think about a second wedding?
I'm divorced with a child. My bf has never been married. When we get married, should we just go for a small "chapel" wedding with no one there but family? Should we go to a justice of the peace just us? Should we have a regular wedding?
My mother thinks that there is no need for a regular wedding. I was just wondering what everyone's opinions were on it.

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Now-a-days you can do whatever you wish. You can have a huge pig roast and bonfire and get married at a park with a pavilion in jeans and a T-shirt or in a huge church and hall with all the splendor. This is the first party you and him will be hosting as a couple and it should be whatever you wish. Don't worry about what people think you "should" do. Do what you want! I really believe making decisions based on what other people think is the wrong way to make a decision! HAVE FUN! But do think about your budget and what is financially smart as well.
GOOD LUCK and stop back. I have helped plan all kinds of weddings and do favors, decorrations and invitations and even silk flowers for people and I can tell you that all weddings are fun - even chapel quickies - it is just about what will make you happy. If you need any ideas please ask!
Laura
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Hi Starfire01!
I think you're new here.
I think you should do what you BOTH want, no matter what ANYONE else thinks. There are no social "rules" about this, and even if there were, the heck with them. Do you want a wedding? Are you ok with going through that again?
My DH was married before he met me. He had a HUGE traditional wedding. He did NOT want any kind of wedding. But I never had one, and he wanted me to have whatever (and he truly meant whatever) kind of wedding I wanted. If I wanted a ceremony on a beach (which incidentally that was what we both wanted, but that made my mom really sad) that was fine. If I "needed" the big wedding, he felt that I was entitled to that.
We had a smaller wedding in a lodge. Me in a gown, he in a tux. Short wedding. VERY small cake and punch reception and then had our family stay at the lodge overnight with us and we just had a blast visiting, playing cards and having a great time.
In retrospect, it ended up being EXACTLY perfect for both of us.
Do what you want.
My husband had been married before, but I had not. Therefore, I still wanted to have a real wedding, so we did.
When she explained to her mom that she wanted a 'real' wedding because she was going to have a family with this man and the wedding photo album would mean a lot to her...why have a big album for the first marriage that didn't last, but not for this one which would be important for her kids?
My opinion, is like everyone else's. Don't listen to other people. Do what you want to do. My first and only wedding was a nightmare on hassle because I already had my first child out of wedlock and not from my husband (X now). My step-witch (step mother)all but ruined my wedding. She told me she would get me a hairdresser for my hair and never did, she made jokes that I shouldn't wear white because I OBVIOUSLY wasn't a Virgin anymore and that she hoped a veil would be out. They wouldn't let me invite who I wanted and she said that if it would of been up to her, she would of thrown down a plate of sandwiches to my wedding, but because of my father, I should be grateful for the sit down dinner he had for us. Their were only 14 people and two of those were my friends. The rest people I never saw in my life. Awful. We had another reception in Germany the way we wanted it and it was truly romantic and small, but at least I did it how i wanted it.
We had a large reception with lots of food and a band. We wanted the small quick wedding, but wanted the party after to celebrate. I think if you both want something small, have a quiet wedding in a chapel with just close family and then maybe have a big party where everyone can attend that. That way, we have the small part and the big part.
Just an idea.
Best of luck!
Mel
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