Second Wedding questions

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Registered: 07-28-2004
Second Wedding questions
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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 11:23am
What do you think about a second wedding?

I'm divorced with a child. My bf has never been married. When we get married, should we just go for a small "chapel" wedding with no one there but family? Should we go to a justice of the peace just us? Should we have a regular wedding?

My mother thinks that there is no need for a regular wedding. I was just wondering what everyone's opinions were on it.

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Avatar for cl_tcranky1
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 2:22pm

Hi!


Just wanted to say Welcome to the Board!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 3:44pm
You should get married however you both want!!!! We've been married a little over a year now, got married May 03. We married ourselves (that's perfectly legal in CO) I wore a long white dress with beading and a train!!! I couldn't afford that first time around and had to make my dress. Dh had been married twice before but never had a real wedding and said right after he proposed that he was wearing a tux with tails. We got lucky with the location because he's the stationery operating engineer for an office building that has a gorgeous atrium with trees and fountains so we were able to get married there for the price of a one day insurance policy. But we had about 65 people,my dd was the flower girl, we served a buffet style dinner (the caterer owns a bar dh had played at a lot and would only allow us to pay him for the cost of the food.) Not many people danced but we did have cd's and some dancing and the lead guitarist for the band he was with brought in a cd that was recorded the night of my "bachelorette party" (which consisted of me and some of my friends getting together to hear dh's band so I think I had one of the very few supervised bachelorette parties LOL) when dh had played and sung "Love Will Keep Us Alive" by the Eagles and had dedicated it to his lovely fiance. So I got to dance with my new dh and have him playing for me! Anyway, do what you want, not what other people think you should have.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 08-25-2004 - 3:52pm
I agree with everyone who says "do what you want!" And I want to let you know that no matter WHAT you do - SOMEONE is going to gripe about it!!!!! I promise you!

My dh and I had both been married before in grand weddings. We didn't want to do any of that again. We had a private ceremony in Colorado where we married ourselves on a hiking trail during a week vacation. We had a very small reception at a friends' home upon our return. It was EXACTLY what we wanted. His best friend pouted for months (seriously) that he wasn't there the day we married. His sister said over and over that she wished she could have shared in our special day and felt like she had been "excluded" (um, the only ones there were deer, squirrels, chipmunks, birds, and a fuzzy black caterpillar!). We had a friend that felt like she had been cheated out of helping to plan a huge shindig. NOW - had we HAD the huge shindig - people would have said it was ridiculous. We had both already had big weddings, we had been living together, we had a child together, blah, blah, blah ad nauseum.

Please yourself. Forget everyone else!

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