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Sending good vibes to Moody!
| Mon, 01-08-2007 - 9:04am |
Moody,
I hope your talk with Double D goes the way you want it to today!
M2M
| Mon, 01-08-2007 - 9:04am |
Moody,
I hope your talk with Double D goes the way you want it to today!
M2M
M2M, thanks so much! I actually have sort of decided that until and unless he brings it up, I'm really cool with where Double D and I are.
He did walk by me, asked if I was still on for lunch, and said he'd call. He then called about two minutes later, we confirmed plans, and I'm looking forward to a relaxing, fun lunch out of the office for a change with someone who's company I enjoy.
I'm trying very hard not to make it into anything else right now, because this is only our second date. If he brings up anything serious, I'll certainly voice my opinions, concerns, views, whathaveyou, but I'm willing to just let it be right now.
I'd like to see where this goes, definitely, but I have a habit of pushing things into becoming something they aren't, and something incredibly unhealthy. I genuinely like Double D because of who he is and how he seems to fit with me right now.
I like his plans, his work ethic, his commitment to living a wholesome, happy, healthy lifestyle.
I also like the fact that I can recognize the unhealthy things I've done in the past, and know better than to do those things now. I know I'm not liking Double D because I'm lonely, or bored, or feeling worthless. I truly like him for him, and it's not about my insecurities at all.
A year or two, or even six months ago, I'd have been unwilling or unable to believe a guy like him could be into me, and that insecurity would have propelled me into latching on too quickly, wanting too much, and pushing too hard too fast, which would have pushed him away, which would have confirmed the crazy notion that I couldn't attract a guy like him. It's a vicious cycle that I think many of us go through, but luckily now I'm in a really good place for me. This isn't about that at all anymore.
I don't need to be in a relationship, and I'm not willing to settle for one that isn't right for me. I do want to be in one, but a healthy, happy one. If that's with Double D, only time will tell. Right now I know I like him, and we're having lunch today.
Moody, who has clarity and peace today
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Clarity and peace are good!!!
I needed HN and I to have specific open and honest converstation to obtain clarity and peace - but our situation is a little different. We started spending time together pretty regularly about six months ago. It was completely platonic and obviously "just friends' until this fall and then the lines started to blur. Our casual evenings out started turning into what seemed like dates. And then in late December once our friendship was no longer purely platonic. I couldn't just assume that HN and I were on the same page.
So, I'm back from lunch with Double D. It was another wonderfully enjoyable time. We ate, talked about my fitness goals (which I'll update you all on in another post), his fitness plans, talked about our families, touched on religion and politics, money, employment and career goals. All of the basic things people talk about when getting to know each other. So far, we don't agree about everything, but the differences are minor and we actually enjoy "debating" our own points of view, respectfully.
It's so wonderful to have a stimulating conversation with someone. We made each other laugh, and I didn't mind eating in front of him at all (something I usually hate doing with a guy). I'm comfortable around him, but not so comfortable that he's just another coworker. I look forward to seeing him, and so far am really enjoying what I know about him and getting to know more.
At one point fairly early in the date we were talking about religion, and he told me about this restaurant that's run by people not of either of our religions, and he went on to describe the restaurant. He said, "We should have gone there, but it's really more of a dinner place, so we'll go there next time." I thought it was a very good sign that even casually he made it be known he wanted there to be a next time.
As we were leaving, me to come back to work and him to get ready to come back to work, he said, "So, I'll get in touch, we should check out that other place sometime." I agreed that I'd like that, and we each got in our respective vehicles.
It was such a great time, very casual, very friendly. The conversation never lulled or went somewhere I was uncomfortable going- I feel like at this point I can talk to him about anything. Since it was the middle of the day in a very public place I wasn't at all concerned with things getting physical, and I know that since I'll be plenty busy, I won't be sitting around waiting for him to call.
One more thing, when I was back at work, he came in to pick up some paperwork, and we chatted for a minute, then he said, "see you later, have a great day. I'll call you." I am really loving the fact that I won't wonder if he meant it. He'll call me.
Moody, whose mood ring would be whatever color happy is right now!
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Absolutely Gorgeous!!!
I love the way you put it because I feel the same way when it comes to Hiker- but can't put it into words as well as you just did! And I'm so happy to see you in that place in your life right now. Super!!!!
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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How'd I manage to miss your update post as I was posting before?!?? But oh well...
I'm glad you both had a great time!!! And how wonderful that there is already a "next time" in the works! Woohoooooo! It's definitely starting out on the right foot, and I hope it continues to go that way, for both of you!
~shrimpy, all mood-alicious for you too
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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