Sex offer from a long time friend.....
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| Fri, 10-01-2004 - 10:57pm |
He looks dead serious at me and says I know it's probably been a while for you and I shook my head and he told me again how sexy I was and point blank that he would like to try to satisfy me sexually and that he and I could have a little fun together. He told me that he was clean and that he would like to take care of me if I wanted him. I began laughing because I was so embarassed I didn't know what to say to him. I thanked him for his offer and he wanted to know if he'd said something wrong. I still continued to laugh and told him I was embarrassed to which he then replied he was too. Well, obviously not if he could make such a bold statement to me. I was floored by his comments and was so thrown off guard I honestly didn't know how to reply to him. We just sorta wandered away as I was still laughing, incomprehensible to me that he could be so bold and brassy. Dating after 16 yrs. is hard enough but now this. What would you have done? Me thanking him was a little sarcastic by-the-way. I thought he would start laughing anytime too, but he didn't he told me he was serious and I have no doubt he was. On vacation until Oct. 5th so I won't be able to respond until then. Any advice would be good. I have to see this man/friend on a weekly basis. Our kids are on the same baseball team. What the heck do I do now?

I think my first question would have been "is your gf ok with this? does she know?" He's assuming you would not care if another woman got hurt, that would tick me off.
I wouldn't want to be with someone who plays on a person's misfortune to get what he wants. He may not even be good in bed, then where would you be?
Don't go off and be alone with that guy. He sounds like he has the potential to be a date rapist. I'm not exaggerating.
Trust me, you can find dozens and dozens of decent men who are interested in you for more than just a sexual relationship. If you just want sex, then get a college boy. They are more than willing to do that kind of thing.
Remember, you are NOT the one who has anything to be embarassed about here, it's all on him.
Good luck!
sc
"Listen, thanks, but no thanks. I'm shocked adn disappointed that you turned out to be someone that completely disrespects women and my late-husband, by approaching me regarding a sexual relationship. Your not doing me a favor, the only favor you can do is stay 20 paces away from me at all times. I hope you got the picture and this was the end of our conversation, because I would hate to have to speak to anyone regarding your offer. Good bye."
I'm hoping that by me laughing at this guy face to face, maybe just maybe it might have deflated his ego a little! Maybe not, but he sure deserved it. He is not all that either but he obviously thought he was. Thanks again for the advice. I'll let you guys know how practice goes this week.
sc
Just found out from one of the other moms on the team that this creep has hit up several
of the other moms too. I have no respect for him anymore, this guy is an idiot! He hasn't said anything else to me, I haven't given him a chance too either!
sc
Best of luck and you handle your dating situation the way YOU feel best.
Mel
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