Sex too soon

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Sex too soon
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Mon, 11-07-2011 - 12:26pm

I met this guy, fell for him and

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Registered: 04-16-2003
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 11:33pm
IMO, communication is always a good thing, so you should definitely talk to him about your feelings. I don't think there is such a thing as "too soon" for anything in a relationship, it just depends on how it goes. The only problem with continuing to sleep with him while you figure out your feelings is that you will become more attached to him because of the sex and that will cloud your judgement. I'm not sure if it's possible (at least for me) to sleep with someone but not develop feelings for them. That said, there have been a few people who I slept with and knew immediately that I was NOT interested in a repeat. I guess it kind of depends on what you're looking for, but maybe you can figure that out together?
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Registered: 05-19-2011
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 7:31pm

I don't think you should sleep with him again until you've had a bit of a conversation about what you both want.

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 12:25pm

It can work - I slept with my SO on our first date,

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 10:12pm

Well I guess my fears and concerns were valid. After our 2nd sexual encounter, he blew me off. He

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Registered: 01-05-2012
Fri, 01-06-2012 - 9:11pm

Everytime you two meet up he's going to expect it. If you see a future for this guy maybe you shouldn't have sex with him anymore until you guys talk. To see where he stands about the situation, because he might just want to have sex and thats it.

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 01-11-2012 - 11:50am

Bummer, I am sorry it did not work out. How silly of him :)

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Registered: 01-01-2012
Tue, 01-24-2012 - 11:09pm

I just recently moved to these boards on my own question. I saw your post thought and I thought I would respond because I was recently in a relationship where sex happened on the first date.