Should I ask him?

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Registered: 04-10-2008
Should I ask him?
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:19pm

Hi all, I need help!


Okay, ya all know I met a guy about 3 week ago, met him 2 times, had kiss just little kiss. Talk thru e-mail and phone, most every other day. Few nights ago we got into instant chatting. Wow, first time for everything. I actually had sex talk!!! Anyway something happen, we couldn't chat each other. So he called me and we started again! My question is we are going to see each other next weekend and it will be possible we might ... But I want to be safe, since I do not know his past sex life. Is it okay to ask him let's have sex after we both go to see doctor and share the result and everything comes good then do it. Is it too much to ask? Help!!


Truefully

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:31pm

I personally think that having sex chat with some one that you dont know well enough is NOT GOOD. Why didnt he call you and chat normally.. Some guys are just into these kind of chats and sex chats and may be it is his thing.


Since you dont know him that well and havent yet talked about being exclusive or the relationship has not progressed enough that you dont even know his past: I suggest you stay away from sex and sex chat with him till you know him well enough and have confidence in him that he is relationship material.


If you are looking for just some fun and sex, then you can do what you thought about. Getting check ups and sharing results. That would be wise.


Good luck with everything. I just feel bit strongly ( negatively) about guys that encourage sex chat. It just creeps me out. You may

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 3:04pm

I agree with Dance- I'd be steering clear of a guy who initiated sex chat/ talk after barely knowing him- no matter what level of attraction you seemed to have on your face to face dates.


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Registered: 11-03-2003
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 6:00pm

Herpes CANNOT be tested for until symptoms appear


I'm sure different parts of the country are different, but the Planned Parenthood clinics in the Dallas-Fort Worth area can test for HSV I and II with a blood draw - no symptoms necessary anymore.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 6:12pm

I would RUN away from this one for so many reasons.

First of all, I would at least want a good friendship and normal conversation and dates. Then see if I want to be exclusive - would have to see over time.

He screams sex only, promiscuity, and out and out rudeness and inability to be respectful - only one thing is on his mind.

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Registered: 04-10-2008
Sat, 04-19-2008 - 11:52pm

Thank you! I never thought that way, I am new at this and need to learn ... Thanks again.


Truefully

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 3:56pm