Sigh.....feeling like throwing in

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sigh.....feeling like throwing in
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 12:43pm

the towel.........

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 1:11pm

Don't let anyone EVER tell you not to go to school to improve yourself and your financial situation if they aren't willing to step up to the plate and make a REAL commitment to you.


I cound not agree more. Very well said!!


~Pacific~
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Wed, 08-27-2008 - 10:00am

Seems like someone is getting strung along! I think he's using you for the money you contribute to do his things


Actually he makes 3x more than me and truthfully I don't contribute in that way.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 10:14am
Oooh Issy - that doesnt sound good to me.

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Wed, 08-27-2008 - 10:31am
Sorry Isys I must have misunderstood something. I thought you guys were trying to figure out a living situation for sooner than ten years and that he was also talking ten years down the road as well. I guess I thought maybe he had two plans rolling around. But if he truly has no plans cemented except talk of ten years down the road than he is all talk and no action and you are right to just move ahead with your own plans of course! I dont think I would even stay engaged or dating if that were the case. It would just seem like he has you on hold for no reason. Engagement should mean planning a future now as in right now and for the near future and also discussions about down the road as well IMO. Sorry you are going through this. Have you talked to him since you started this thread? How are things going?
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Wed, 08-27-2008 - 11:29am

I thought you guys were trying to figure out a living situation for sooner than ten years and that he was also talking ten years down the road.


He says he was saying that too, but I didn't see it that way.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 2:11pm

We did discuss it Monday and a little last evening and I told him it wasn't fair for him to tell me to not plan things until we move our lives foward.

~Pacific~
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 2:28pm

Basically that it's not his intention.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 4:30pm

"But the thing that bothers me most of all is that he wasn't talking about us moving foward until he saw that I was taking an interest in trying to work toward my masters degree on a part time basis.


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Wed, 08-27-2008 - 4:34pm
You know, my marriage was all about ME waiting for him. I had to put off classes, plans, dreams, because we always had to wait for his job to get better, something he wanted to do get done, he could quit yet one more job because he didn't like the way someone talked to him, etc. And yet, nothing ever worked out in my favor, because all the promises that we would get to my dreams were never fulfilled. I know I will not ever put my hopes and dreams on hold for another person unless I am sure that it will be reciprocated.
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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 4:35pm

Get into the habit of repeating back to him what you're HEARING him say to you, not just what he IS saying: because we always misinterpret things said, and that's where the damage comes in.