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significant step... perhaps
| Tue, 11-04-2008 - 4:04am |
had a really great night with MM.... he is surprisingly opening up to me. he told me that he missed me over the weekend when he was out of town. so, after work, i went back to his place. just to hang out, talk, and snuggle on the couch. (no sex, yet)... we got pretty heated (again) but his mom is still visiting and borrowing his room. so that prevented things from going too far... but i so wanted to....
but in between the heated passionate kisses were just moment of sweet cuddling. where he just held me or rubbed my hair and back. said sweet things to me. stuff i wasn't expecting because i

OOOOOOOHH!!! I remember when Mr. Summer wanted to cook for me...well, let me just say, I did not go home that night. Now if I could find someone else to cook for me...
I have heard that is a huge sign, when they want to cook for you...crossing my fingers. Be a good girl! NOT.
Be a good girl! NOT.
thats too funny. i'm actually looking forward to being a bad bad girl.... he also sent me a link to the new David Acheleto song "Crush".... hmm he's been my crush for months..should i tell him?.. or is he realizing his crush on me isn't going away?
i think he's showing signs now that he is interested .... check on everything but the uncertainty... and i reread that chapter... i think there is a time frame of uncertainty but i sense he's coming out of it..
as for how i feel... i think it's sooo cool that we started as friends (albeit friends with a crush). that we've taken all this time to get to know each other. last night was tender and amazing.
Loonybunny
I'm happy that MM is doing these things for you. It seems that he is relaxed now that your relationship is not "labeled"? Maybe that is what he needed to relax and move forward.
I'm never one to throw a wet blanket on anyones fire, but I only catiuon you to be careful with him, in regards to his wants for the future. I would hate to see you invest your heart into him if he will not commit in the way you need.
But I truly am happy for the way he is being with you. Enjoy that!!
"I'm never one to throw a wet blanket on anyones fire, but I only catiuon you to be careful with him, in regards to his wants for the future. I would hate to see you invest your heart into him if he will not commit in the way you need. "
Oh, but I AM!
Hi Loony!!
I think this is good. I am going to be a bit of a wet blanket here and just remind you that he has given you his disclaimer so unless he specifically states that he is no longer hesitant and ready to focus on building something with you, I would continue to hold back.
I have found that guys put it out there and then assume it is known where as women, we tend to read into behavior changes as I sign that they have changed their mind. BTDT and have the battle scar.
But you are doing great...this is just a little reminder.
Side note: I may have some free time in December to get out so I will let you know.
I'm gonna say be careful as well but as long as you are okay with the terms have fun. DF cooks for me and I never go home when he does.
Love the song "Crush" because I love David Archuleta and my girls think he's dreamy.
thanks for all the cautions.. seriously... i will truely keep all of that in mind.
i don't get friends with benefits from him at all though.. i don't think that is his deal... but there is still the disclaimer. My gut tells me though that he will be equally hurt ... that the disclaimer is not simply an excuse to have a few good nights, ya know. I believe he is trying to be cautious with his heart but may be falling for me. Yes, i feel like i'm falling for him too. It just feels natural.. how we connect... i will be cautious but i don't think i could stop what i'm feeling....
even tonight... he's been in touch all day.... I called him at 11 to talk about the election.. he was in the
Sweetie, I think it will be time soon for another talk with MM to clear the air. You can bring up how the contact is making you more interested in him and you'd like to move forward in something with him and not just be friends, since that is where you are leaning.
He'll either take it slow and agree to move forward or he'll bail and put a halt to the idea: either way you will be able to move forward with a clear idea.
Dating is GREAT fun, but once the line is crossed between a good night kiss and make out sessions that tempt a sleepover, then there should be further discussion about exclusive and expectations. I know that personally, I could DATE a man who was dating others, but wouldn't want to be into heavy petting or sex without further commitment.
Good luck.
I am with you on this one and think its significant steps. But you know better than we do. Go with your gut feeling. I really dont think he is looking for FWB. I think the whole relationship thing confuses him and he is starting to come around.
Laurie