Silence or hearing the bad? Whats 4U?

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Silence or hearing the bad? Whats 4U?
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Sat, 01-29-2005 - 4:51am

Ok, we all know what chaos I had in my life again, because Ian gave me the total silent treatment. No dear C letter, no sentence saying I'm not interested, no nothing. I've had the truth spilled out on me, sometimes so honestly brutal that the slap in the face almost killed me, but now for the first time, I've had silence. And I feel that is almost worst.
What about you? What would you rather have and maybe an experience to share where you had wished vice versa?

Silence or Honesty?

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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 10:47am

Hi
Well with that clarification, I wouldnt want to know the whole details either. That can only hurt you. I mean, if it was some kind of constructive criticism, like "You are too insecure about yourself and it hurt the relationship.", then maybe that would be helpful for future relationships. But really, what guy is going to give you that kind of criticism? They can't even grasp those concepts generally.

So, no, I would rather have silence then hurtful details.

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Tara

 

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 11:44am

I always want things spoken. I want closure. I don't like a man who's not "man enough" to tell me he's just not into this thing.


HOWEVER, I am not into brutal honesty. If I am not quite as attractive as you at first thought, PLEASE don't tell me that. The most secure woman in the world still doesn't need to hear that. You know?


And yes, that did happen to me. It served no purpose to tell me that. None at all. Creep.

Becky

Becky

 

 

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