Single again :(

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Registered: 11-16-2005
Single again :(
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Thu, 01-19-2006 - 10:52am
So after a year and a half with my bf, we've called it quits. Actually he said some pretty demeaning things to me, and not for the first time, and I told him not to call me anymore. I changed all my phone numbers and email address, and am trying very hard to forget about him. It sucks! I love him, but it wasn't a very healthy relationship, and he was putting on a lot of pressure to get married. I didn't want to get into another dysfunctional marriage, and didn't think it was fair to string him along. So, now I am single once again! I think I'm going to take the time to get me straighten out before I date again. I have some childhood issues I thought I had dealt with, but I keep getting myself into BAD relationships, so I think I just thought I dealt with them. I am going to build up my self confidence, so I know that I deserve a guy that treats me right! Wish me luck guys; I need all I can get!
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Registered: 04-17-2003
In reply to: noahkijd
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 2:39pm
It's very hard to love someone that isn't capable of an emotionally healthy relationship. BTDT. I think you are on the right track by taking time for yourself. Maybe a therapist can help you understand why you choose bad relationships. Sometimes that professional guidance is the ticket in helping us find our way.
Stephanie
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: noahkijd
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 4:13pm

I know from experience that it stinks to be newly single - but from your story here I would say you definitely made the right decision!!

If only we could all control the actions of the person we love - but unfortunately we can't and we all have to realize that not every person is meant to be with us for the long term and not all are capable of loving in a way we deserve. You are smart to see all of this now.

I do think it is a good thing to spend time alone and get your feet on the ground so you are happy alone - that way you will attract the right person.

Keep us posted on what you are doing!!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: noahkijd
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 1:48pm

Jennifer,


I have always been a firm believer that we meet the people in our lives to learn something about ourselves.


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