Single again with two this time

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Registered: 12-14-2004
Single again with two this time
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Wed, 12-29-2004 - 11:22am

Hello everyone, new here! I am tehtehpink, 28, seperated for 3 months & have filed for divorce. My relationship has been over for a couple of years, just been delaying the inevitable. We finally moved out of our $150,000.00 house into a single wide in a trailer park. I have 2 kids, girl 9 & son 3. I work full time m-f 9-5. I work tues, thurs, & every fri or sat. at night at a restaurant. I also have been pre-contracting with Western/Southern Life Insurance for the last month to become an insurance agent. I have school next week for licensing. So, I am a busy single parent.

Anyway, I am single again, this time with two kids instead of one. My question is this............when I got married, I had my daughter who was 2 & who is now almost 10. In addition I now have a son who is 3. How is it when you start dating someone with the kids being involved with their dads? I mean I feel guilty that I want to be happy, like I am being selfish to the kids. I know they both love my husband very much & my daughter is active in her relationship with her dad, but I can't help but wonder how our lives will revolve now. She wanted us to move out as well. I know I did the right thing by finally moving out, but where do I go from here? Like I said our relationship has been over for a long time so the emotional pain is pretty much over. I want to date & have a life again, socially. Once I switch jobs over to the insurance business I will no longer be so busy & I am sure I will meet lots of new people just from that.

So how do you tell people your situation & what do you tell your kids if anything when they want to know what you did while they were at their dads for the weekend? As far as dating goes?

any advice would be great! Thank You

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 4:20pm

Hi again,


I agree with everything that Donna said.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 8:02am
Just wanted to wish you luck as you begin the New Year. As far as dating - you need something for yourself in my opinion to make yourself a better parent - focussing solely on the kids is not a good idea although they will always be your priority. In my opinion saying you went out with

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