Single mom and trying to date

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Registered: 01-26-2007
Single mom and trying to date
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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 10:51pm
Thanks Vanessa for all the advice I really appreciate it. I'm trying to keep my options open. One more question for ya'll and then I will quit bugging ya'll. Is it bad that I stay in touch with my ex? The one that broke up with me in January. We are trying to remain friends, we talk on the phone, text, and still see each other on occasion. Is that a bad thing. I guess I'm hoping that someday we will get back together. He means a lot to me. Well I'm done for now. Thank you everyone for your advice.
Sandra
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 12:37am

Sandra,


It's ok to remain friends with an ex ONLY if you're not hoping for a reconciliation- and since you ARE, then I think you need to get some space from him until you are over that feeling.


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Registered: 02-08-2006
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 9:29am

I think it's unhealthy for you to keep in contact with you ex- as friends- if your goal is to get back together.

Lots of people are friends with their exes, and lots of people want to be with their exes, but I don't think you can have both and have it work out well. You can be friends or you can try to get him back, but being friends to win him back is only going to hurt you.

Until I read that line, I thought no big deal about keeping in touch, but if you aren't over him and hope to reconcile at some point, you aren't open to meeting others. You might only be seeing the older men who are into you- completely overlooking the younger ones because you're caught up in your ex.

In any case, I wish you well- keep us posted

Moody, completely over her exes


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