single mom pool party
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| Sun, 06-22-2008 - 3:02pm |
Yesterday I had a little pool party for D4 and 2 friends from dance class, and their single moms. We had a great time, the little girls had a fabulous time. Time just flew and before we knew it, it was 10pm.
The other moms were super appreciative of the concept as neither of them has other friends who are in this situation. /their other friends are either single no kids or married. All three of us were pregnant with our D4's while we were going through the divorce. Poor E, my heart really goes out to her as she was pregnant, 18 mos marriage on the rocks, then her delivery was a mess and she wound up emergency C section with hysterectomy-at 23! She is now 27,been through a few counselors til she found the right one, and is in currently in a very healthy relationship. MM, who is 30, has a bit more work to do with letting go of the anger, her X is a psycho like mine, and he's physically abusive.
One comment really struck me as sad. Both of these little girl's dads have made very negative remarks about their daughter's physical appearance- to their daughters. These girls are 4 years old and neither of them is even chunky. But these dads tell them they are fat and their hair isn't right. So far, PsychoBoy has refrained from that, but since he was always on me, and his sister, about physical appearance, I suppose it is only a matter of time.
Well I'm looking forward to our next get together, D4 can hardly wait.
QB

Hey QB - what a great idea to get the single moms together for a pool party!
It is so unlike me to be the party organizer, but this went so well, we'll be doing it again. I have other single mom friends, but none with kids as young as D4. And these two young women (E, at 27, is young enough to be my kid) have no other single mom friend's.
MM was asking us about a LDR she was considering ending, in favor of a local guy who has been a platonic friend for years but recently has been letting MM know he'd be interested in more. E and I were totally for Nexting the LDR guy as he has not been communicating much of late and is in the military about to be deployed overseas. Local guy sounds better from what we can tell so far. She'll keep us posted I'm sure.
E has a steady guy, she did not say how long she's been seeing this one,probably no more than a year as she had so much emotional stuff to deal with after the divorce. I've met him and he's good with E's D4.
Oh, and the girls are all within 3 months of one another in age.
QB
1) I feel it helps show my girls that we are a normal family and that they are not the only children whose parents live in separate houses and 2) Just talking with other women who have a personal understanding of some of the things I have gone through just feels good.
Totally agree, and one of the reasons this board is so helpful.
I alo think my daughter gravitated toward these two girls because they do have the same home situation and talk about it. She did not hit it off with the girl's who actually attend her preschool.
We're looking at the schedules to co-ordinate another get together.
QB
This sounded soooo much fun, and something like I enjoy and given that I am mostly a homebody and a hermit these days - that is unusual for me.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16