Single moms and dating

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2007
Single moms and dating
8
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 3:26pm
Do you ever feel like most guys won't get serious if you have kids?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2006
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 3:48pm

No, I have never felt that.

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2006
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 3:59pm

No, but I do feel like most WRONG guys won't get serious if you have kids.

The right one will love your children, and the fact that you're a mother.

The wrong ones won't, and that's all right, since it helps weed them out before too much time has been wasted.

Moody, happy to be a mother


Powered by CGISpy.com
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 6:12pm
If they dont like it

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2006
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 11:47pm
I feel the same way i cant find a guy that likes kids that im interested in and all the guys that i fall for tend to be jerks who are only out for one thing and that isn't a relationship I just wish i could find that one guy who wants us for us
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 12:29am
The guys that I have dated also have "baggage" so it hasn't been an issue. The guy I'm involved with right now has more kids than me (I have two and he has four). If they really care for you, they won't have issues with it. It's life.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2007
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 1:31am

It could be worse, the few men I have dated & allowed into my home tend to like my children more than me. How do you tell anyone your jealous of your kids?
I told them it was MY playdate to no avail.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2007
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 1:40am
This is the one time the phrase "Less is more" applies. Do you really want to compete w/that much? I am so needy for attention w/3 kids @ home alone, I can't even date someone w/a job, never mind a team. Have you considered travel? Luggage? Holiday shopping? Braces?
cut him loose ! At some point it has to be about You!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2003
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 5:34am

Hi
I believe that the right guy, who loves you, will see your kids as part of you, and as part of what has made you who you are. Any guy who sees your kids as a nuisance is just not worth dating.

I also think that it's about our attitude. If we talk about our kids as if we are scared that the guy may be put off by it, or as if it's some sort of problem for us, then this sends out negative vibes. If, however, we talk naturally to potential dates about the fact that we are moms, just as we would to anyone else, then it is less of an issue. After all, we are proud to be parents, and love our kids, so why should we be anxious to mention them?

There are so many single parents these days, and the men I have dated in the past have not been put off by my children at all... well of course I would not have dated them if it had been an issue.

I know single people with no kids who have far more baggage than me!

The right guy will come along. It can just take time. :o)

Clem xx