Single Moms versus Married Moms

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Single Moms versus Married Moms
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:46am

Is it just me, or are Single Moms a lot different than Married Moms?


When I'm with home-school Moms (traditional, stay-at-home, cookie-baking types) I'm amazed at how insulated they are.

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 8:40am

I think your post backs up the fact that it is the person and their background that determines how they are and how they act.

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 12:29pm

I might be an exception to the rule lol when I was married, and after I started staying home to have/raise our babies, I still handled all finances, all house related things and really my DH would get my OK on stuff about everything because his words: "You're just really good at it" and I didn't mind at all in fact I preferred to be in control of it all. I did think about "when I return to the working world" and have plans to, but not until my youngest starts grade 1 and is in school all day (another 5 yrs from now). Now, as a single parent, my life really hasn't changed much except I've added "dating" to the mix which to be honest... was more scary than appealing in the beginning. But my married life compared to now, despite the obvious difference of no longer having my husband, didn't change much. When married I handled pretty much everything, and had the comfort of knowing he brought in the majority of income so we lived comfortably. Because our planning ahead and insurnace and such, he still brings in the majority of income so I can continue to raise our kids as planned until they start school. Things didn't change. He just never comes home :(

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 12:35pm

Ola lol I pressed post and forgot i wasn't done typing LOL To answer your other questions, I do talk childbirth and such, but that stems more from the fact I'm a certified birth doula and so it goes with the job. I choose to watch very little news, because I hate seeing all the horrible things going on in my city, the world, the destruction, the murders, its horrible and affects my sleep. So when people ask "Oh my god did you hear so and so killed his wife & kids then committed suicide?" I answer "no." to them I do keep up on current things enough so I'm not lost int he world, but definitely limit it and stay away from reality tv shows LOL As for married & non married friends, I have few single friends now, its funny, when I was the one marries, most of them were single LOL and now the tables are turned. We have stuff in common, and stuff not in common. Which is why we do different things together, but I find that's with anyone. I can hunker down with a cup of tea and talk non stop about kids, childbirth, etc and not be bored. And then sit down over a drink with another friend and listen to her talk politics, interject if I have something to add, and enjoy that conversation just as much. It's the company I find. I like talking to people. While waiting at the school for my son, strike up a conversation with his classmate's mom who is a nurse and talk about that too even tho I have no idea what being a nurse is all about lol I think it really depends on the person, if they're a stay at home mom, secluded, relies heavily on the husband, that must work for them. If they're power mom, works outside the home, is up on all trends, current news, etc, that works for them.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 12:40pm

I can relate to your post 100 percent.


I live in exactly the same type of town. And the moms of other kids relate to me exactly as you have described in your area. It's like of your a single parent, there must be something wrong and they don't even want to try and relate. They just don't try

~Pacific~
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Registered: 08-23-2006
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 2:52pm

My goodness, are you in Long Island?

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 4:58pm

Your story reminds me of something similar I experienced. I had just moved back to California after being in Maryland for 7 years. I moved into a place in Ventura for a while. DD was

~Pacific~

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