Sisterly Love ~ NOT!!!
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Sisterly Love ~ NOT!!!
| Thu, 02-07-2008 - 3:56pm |
A few weeks back, my sister and her girlfriends invited me to join them on a Girl Friend Weekend (GFW) in March.
| Thu, 02-07-2008 - 3:56pm |
A few weeks back, my sister and her girlfriends invited me to join them on a Girl Friend Weekend (GFW) in March.
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You are one wise mom!
Oh yes - I am a big believer of consequences!!! Kids need a lot of love, time, nurturing and positive reinforcement for self esteem. But they also need to pick up after themselves, get up on time, get their homework done and not lose their stuff. They need to show respect and help around the house.
Just this past week my DS wanted something late at night at the last minute and I said no- so he set his clock and got ready early so we could stop at Walmart on the way to school. Then he lost this thing!! So he ponied up the money to buy another one.
Last night he played outside and played on his xbox - then remembered an assignment late at night and wanted help and I said no.
I want him to learn responsibility. And he is not going to learn that if he does not learn consequences for irresponsibility. I think a chore list is great - my DS gets that on weekends and sometimes during the week if I need help. He is not allowed to go out til he gets it done.
On the flip side, I make a HUGE deal when he does things right. Good grades = special trip to McD's which he loves or a new toy or gadget. Honors = Xbox360. On and on. I thank him for the chores and treat him to special things.
The people across the street busted their buts to put their kids through Princeton. They bought them everything and waited on them hand and foot. To go through a college like that and graduate is good. But the kids worked and don't like the work and now are living at home to get masters degrees. And the poor mom is beside herself. She works all day to help them and comes home to a huge stack of dishes. The kids don't lift a finger and it is all me me me me. That is just sad. And that is not going to happen in this house!
Wow Soonee, you're post really made me think.
Another parallel.... by the time I was growing up around, not only were there fewer kids under the roof, my Dad had a lot more disposable income.
That is good you sent her that book. But too bad she didn't get it!!
What I was trying to ask you - is what do you do with your kids to ensure the same thing doesn't happen - I mean what can we as parents do differently?
Thats IT! She is jealous b/c you have these well-rounded kiddos, with an involved selfless Mom!
Thanks, Rebecca.
I figured you would have touched base with your girls and it's good to know that ALL'S GOOD!
It was probably caused by the mushroom drink West mentioned :)
I agree; simple respect is necessary, and being related to someone doesn't waive that necessity.
Sister67 recently trounced on some of my boundaries.
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