sit back and watch the show?

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Registered: 05-29-2003
sit back and watch the show?
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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 11:43am

OK - my friend needs an online name - I'm going to call him HN - short for Hot Nerd (term stolen from the girl genius blog).

Just as I got comfortable accepting the fact that seeing me this weekend wasn't a high priority for HN and that we are probably better as just friends - HN called Sunday evening just to see how my weekend went.

He has never called just to chat before - so now I'm thrown for a loop again.

We didn't talk long because I was in the middle of helping DD study for a test and had promised both kids that we'd play a game as soon as she was done. Since DD and DS had been with their dad for 3.5 days we were just getting "settled in" when HN called.

HN didn't mention the movie - but since DD answered the phone - he's smart enough to know that it would have been a no go last evening. My girlfriend who knows us both pretty well thinks that HN doesn't know my parenting schedule as well as I think he does and that he probably didn't know I was available on Saturday. She thinks his calling last night is a huge sign that he really is "into me".

So I haven't crossed him off the list - but I'd really like for him to make the next move. I'm feeling like I put myself out there enough already.

I'm just going to try to sit back and "watch the show" for a little while. Any thoughts?

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Mon, 11-20-2006 - 2:38pm

Sitting back and watching the show works for me! You've already made it clear enough that you're interested in seeing if there could be more between you. You've already shown that you're caring and thoughtful. If he is interested back, then he knows where to find you. That's my opinion... just sit back and let it happen. If he doesn't come after you, then what? Then you're just back where you were before- enjoying life with your kids and you'll be open for whoever comes around next. You don't really "lose" anything, because at this point, you guys don't 'have' each other yet anyway. Does that make sense?

Just do what you love, and if he wants to be a part of it, he will call.

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 11-20-2006 - 4:30pm
I totally agree with your position - sit back and see his intentions.
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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 11-20-2006 - 8:50pm
I agree. Sit back and wait.