slim pickins

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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 12:31am

So, I should be sleeping but alas, I am online cruising through POF profiles!

April

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 7:01am

My dear April, that is why these dodos are on POF. Because they only think of themselves and write things that seem socially inept and rude to others. It is a documented fact that wanting an attractive partner is an emotional need and men are visual - so that is why you see a lot of that in profiles. And dating is selfish - we all have our list of what we want. That is what he wants. Now granted, he could keep it to himself and not be so mean and negative but he is probably frustrated with the process and feels like there are slim pickings himself and he has had bad experiences. BUT with that said, he IS an idiot and best skipped over - I can't imagine he is going to capture any fish with that bait!

But the dear Lord blessed us in a couple of different ways:

1) that they actually write what is honestly in their heads so we learn that before we waste time and emotion with them

2) we have a delete key

So, delete delete delete.

I read something encouraging in eharmony the other day - people were complaining because they have to wait a long time for a match or for one who corresponds and wants to go out. And someone said - you just have to wait for the right one that they waited nearly a year and got the perfect person for them and others said the same thing too.

I have been trying to follow everyone's threads and apologize because I do not remember what you write about the virgin - would you recap it here and see if we can help you? I do agree that dating other people takes the pressure off. But unfortunately that is not always easy from a logistical perspective because "other people" are often not available.

I have always wanted to date a few people at the same time so then I can keep it casual and see which one is best - but that has never been easy for me either because my pickings are slim too and I am usually lucky to end up with one even after months of looking - I actually went 4 years without a date because I was not doing OLD was just trying to do the IRL thing and get a lot of stuff done in my life. So I totally understand how you feel.

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In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 8:18am

Hey April,


I agree with West... delete is a wonderful key.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 8:56am

Angie


I have heard of Sturgis--isn't there a bike rally there every year?

April

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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 9:11am

The virgin recap for West:

April

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 9:22am

lol about the heebie jeebie baby comment. I think its ok. LOTS of guys w/no baby experience are freaked out by babies.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 9:30am

I know--I was on eharmony for a little while (2 months) and I know that the good Doc even says that the entire program was set up to take a year to complete but I really don't have the funds for any paying sites right now.

April

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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 10:46am

Hey - in all honesty, sometimes little babies give ME the heebie jeebies!

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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 10:48am
Oh, and as for those other morons, West is right - at least they put it out there in the open for God and everyone to read.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 11:43am

I think that is totally the blessing of OLD - is that you can really get a feel for their outlook on life by what they write - if it is positive or negative. I think OLD really tests all of us on this as a matter of fact - because it is frustrating.

I think by the very sense that anything online is fast and instant - online matching is NOT. We expect to sign up and get the man of our dreams. But many times he does not exist in person or is not interested in us or does not even turn out to be who he represents himself as or who we imagined him to be.

I try to view it as one little process to maybe meet someone over time. And all while I am doing other things to just get out more, too.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 2:49pm

OMG! everytime I read something of yours, I have to think of my own thoughts.


Ok, first off: POF definitely sounds creepy BUT I have actually used it, had a few nice dates and know of people in great relationships/now married

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