SM in a relationship, what is your title

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Registered: 03-11-2007
SM in a relationship, what is your title
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 1:10am

I am a single mom to 3 small boys (divorced), and I just started dating a great guy (gets 50/50 custody of his daughter....so I consider him a single father). My question is what is my title? I tell people that I am a single mother in a relationship (or dating a great guy)......but he is haveing major issues about this. He thinks I should call myself a Dating mom.

I tried explaining that since we are not married or living together (our kids have never met and we haven't met the others' kids, new relationship) I am still a single parent..... He doesn't understand this.

So what do you guys/girls think?

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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 4:04pm
What do I think? I think it's kind of strange that this is a major issue with him.
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 4:47pm
I agree, it sounds like samantics to me. What does it really matter if you say you are a single mom dating or a dating mom? The person I am dating right now calls me his "woman friend" and I call him my "man friend" We have fun with it. It seems like it should not be an issue. Just my opinion
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 6:21pm
I agree with the others. The title thing shouldnt be that important. Does he not understand if the two of you are exclusive? Are you dating other people? I ask this because it seems to me that his issue stems from insecurity of some sort about where he stands with you. Sometimes people will focus on something silly in order to avoid the bigger issue. It might be that if you had a talk that was genuine about where you stand as a couple ( do you think of yourself as a couple yet?) he would suddenly not care about the title thing. Hope this helps!
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 8:11pm
Not really sure why he'd have such an issue with this. It seems trivial~just a play of words. It's not like you are hiding the fact that you are dating. Seems like he's "sweating the small stuff", ya know?
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 10:32pm

Well, I don't think that matters. But he does - so I guess that could be important - something to watch as strange maybe? or something that matters him to be treated with respect? time will tell!

I would say that you are dating someone. That is the dating definition of your relationship. You are a single parent because you are raising your kids alone.

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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 12:09am

I dont see what difference it makes, truthfully. Is he pissed off you are saying "single" since you are dating him? I dont really get it?


I call myself a single mom, who dates, i suppose!

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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 1:06pm

I think it's kind of weird that he is having an issue with "single mom". I agree with West. Single parent means someone who is raising a child by themself...outside of a marriage. It says nothing about your dating status.

I'm dating a single dad. We've been together for over 2 years. I'm still a single mom. He's my boyfriend. I'm the girlfriend.