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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 12:45am

So this is going to sound really really strange.

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 8:19am

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 8:28am

This is yet another reason I absolutely refuse to discuss my sexual past in detail with men I'm currently dating.


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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 8:49am
It all sounds VERY weird to me.

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 8:50am
AND ... no matter HOW many times someone asks you about your sexual histroy in terms of numbers (beleieve me, NO guy wants to know MINE,lol) or size - REFUSE to answer. Its YOUR business & no one elses! (as long as safe sex is practiced, clean bills of health, etc - of course)

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 10:53am

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 12:41pm

Sounds like your new guy could have even deeper issues and fantasies. Do not be suprised if you are asked to wear a cat suit, carrying a bullwhip and him asking you to punish him for being a bad boy.


I would say it could get into a little S&M and unless you like that sort of thing, get out, because it's weird enough already. That is a psychological fantasy thing that cannot be treated.


I once went through the same thing with an X catholic priest, I briefly dated. One night with him made me swear off any

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 5:42pm

I can relate in that one of my long time boyfriend in the past... wanted to know if he was the "biggest" and i said he wasnt'... he was big but there was one other guy who was bigger in my past... I dated this guy for two+ years but he never let me forget that he wasn't the biggest and it was a big deal to him... Next time i'm going to either lie or say it's none of his business.... And even though at the time, i told him over and over again that he was the BEST (although i wouldn't say that now....) and that i loved him ... it was always an issue with him... For me, it just got irritating in the end. And i felt like, look if you want to be the biggest... than go date a virgin... But, yes, he had me take a tape measurer and measure him.. both soft and hard. That was a turn off to me. A guy who is insecure is a turn off to me...

I hope you know that this isn't your issue, it is his.... I also hope you know that you haven't done anything wrong by what you said or didn't say... You are being honest.. don't let his issue become yours. Be true to yourself.

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 6:00pm
The guy sounds creepy to me...I'd be outta there in a NY minute personally. I hate to sound harsh but, life is complicated enough.
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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 1:32am

I'm an Asian guy (3rd generation Japanese American, born and raised in Joisey). I deliberately don't ask such comparison questions for what does that buy me? I just work on satisfying my partner. In fact I don't get enjoyment unless I do give my partner pleasure. I do communicate with my partner while we have sex to know what she likes and what she wants more of. I do like oral more.

Sex has been a tricky thing to discuss with my partner for I grew up with this as a forbidden subject to talk about and there was a lot of shame attached to it. My wife of 20 plus years did not help either on the shame and communication part of it.

After my divorce I vowed to explore, to embrace, and to accept my sexuality and to connect that with my spiritual and emotional part of myself. Now I look for a partner who wants to do the same, i.e. to be comfortable with their sexuality, to be able to talk frankly about it and what they like and want to please me for that is what I want to do.

I know from my history that being a minority growing up in a Caucasian community has given my insecurities in a lot of different areas, sexual prowess is one of them. Especially with Asian women preferring Caucasian men over Asian men (not that I have personally experienced that). I myself prefer blondes for I grew up in such a culture. My former spouse is brown/blonde, taller woman.

BTW I would think someone like that would be too much trouble to deal with in a sexual relationship.

Mark




Edited 9/20/2007 1:52 am ET by mhash
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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 7:43am

I agree with this post! I don't think you can fix him and I would be too afraid that this could be the gateway to places I don't want to go.

Love Soonee's expression - I have to ask permission of the other person - would never share the details of my past.

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