Snapshot of the Match scene

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Snapshot of the Match scene
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Mon, 10-01-2007 - 4:49pm

Okay girls.....

I was telling Alison this morning about how I had 14 emails in the match box, not really any of which I liked. No surprise. Part of that is my age and location. I am into the healthy lifestyle thing and don't really like long distance type things. So that nixes a lot. But she said I should post an update for what I found.

I explained to her and here as well that it takes about a month for me to get an email that I like. But some just downright gave me a laugh, and I had to share in case any one wants a laugh for a Monday. It is just that you have to have a sense of humor for OLD or you will get plumb sick of it.

Italianstallion - this dude has a picture of him in a bathrobe. I was laughing so hard out loud when I saw that one. He writes he loves my pic and wants to talk to me right now!! DELETE!

WayTooYoung - this one is 14 years younger and new to match. DELETE!

TooYoung - this one is 11 years younger and new to match and too far away. DELETE.

copwhowantsakid - this one is a tad younger and I think I am burned out on civil servants for now after the lifeguard and fireman plus he indicates he is never married and wants 1 kid. My oven is closed since I am 45 and I don't want a fling. DELETE!

Tooold - this one is like 10 years older, too far away and no common interests. DELETE!

52nevermarried narcissist - this one sends me his myspace link and a description of his beach workout - Yantra Yoga, riding a mountain bike and urban calistenics and writes all about him. Never married at 52? I don't think so and I don't like your myspace account either buddy - it has a lot of modeling shots. DELETE!

47 and never married - I think he smokes cigars, too. DELETE.

So, I am safe. There was one who plays tennis and has his own biz and we might meet for coffee. But my hopes are not up. And I am very busy right now. Which keeps me safe. LOL!! I made the mistake of telling the PE teacher at school that I would help him with the boys' running team because they have a big race coming up and he put me in charge of the new cross country running team and club at school. Okay - I better call the other parents and get more volunteers!!

I was thinking I might just give match a try for 2 months and if nothing pans out I am going to stop it because I will have a lot of training to do starting the first of the year for the big race and it is so distracting. I think if I have a deadline I can do it for a bit because I know it won't go on and on.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 6:12pm

Well, I have to say your responders are a lot more, um... colorful than mine ever were!


Hey, why not try a Too Young guy?

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 7:01pm
You are hilarious!! Glad you like the Monday entertainment....
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 10:18pm

LMAO Soonee!


I just split my gut reading that!



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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 10:23pm

Just to embelish, here is the message from the narcissist52and never married:
____________________
Wonderful!!!

I just came back from hiking along the cliffs of Bodega Bay and mtn
biking in the redwoods of Santa Rosa, CA through flocks of wild
turkeys, racing deer and swimming in mtn top lakes.

I practice Yantra Yoga on the beach, and do a circuit of speed
biking/city park calisthenics alternating with stair climbs with
weighted vest (whew, I'm tired just typing that!!! ;-)

And I have my own business coaching actors for TV/Film/Broadway.

Marc
_______________________

but his myspace really is what goes over the top - he has 176 pictures of very slutty friends. UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 10-01-2007 - 11:32pm
I just canceled my membership of Match... perhaps i'll try again in a few months.. but for now, i signed off.
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Registered: 11-20-2003
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 3:14am

Wild turkeys? EEEEEEEWWWWWWWW - that's gross. A flock of wild turkey is my idea of hell.


Clem xx

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 6:12am

The funny thing is that the things he writes are ok - I would love to do a bike ride like that. But all he writes about is himself. And he is 52 and never married. And his Myspace account with the 176 Carmen Electra look-alikes is a big big turnoff to me. I think I am getting good at reading the profiles now.

He just wrote and said thanks for looking at my profile. I suppose that is the way he handles rejection. I have never had someone do that. But whatever!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 6:39am

I know - I have done the same thing COUNTLESS times. I think that is why I said I will give this 2 months and if nothing good comes of it then it is getting shut off.

The funny thing is that now that I have turned 45 and am in an older age group than when I first started the OLD thing at 39, I have a LOT more prospects. I think the late 30s and early 40s are sort of awkward because many men that age still want kids and they go for younger women - they are not going to pick an older woman because there is too much competition from the younger girls who want the same and I think there are more younger girls who are looking because all of the guys their age are out partying and don't want to settle down. I don't ever remember that being a problem in my generation the way I see it now.

But now that I am really in the category where they don't want more kids and I am much more fit than my competition, I am getting more attention. Trouble is, more doesn't mean more quality for me - I have to delete most.

But with my situation - I have a home office - it is hard for me to meet new guys. I am out running, biking and swimming a lot and attending all sorts of club functions for those plus the races - but haven't met anyone that way. I think the guys are really into what they are doing and not looking - plus it is hard to meet someone the same pace - most guys are faster - and I don't look my best when I am sweaty!! All of the guys at the pool are married. Ditto with most that bike around here, too.

At my age I feel I have to be very proactive to meet someone. And so far I feel I have learned the ropes of the match jungle.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 8:45am

OK. I thought you and the lifeguard were exclusive now. Did something happen there that I missed? Things seemed to be going very well for you two.

Priscilla

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:08am

Ah Priscilla, it appears that the Lifeguard and I hit a major stumbling block and he broke up with me:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsolomother&msg=10620.1&ctx=128

The bottom line, if you don't want to have to read through 18 messages, is that he thinks that if I set a simple boundary it means I am demanding to have everything my way. Really, upon reflection, I don't think he is able to accept and communicate and he is off in his own little world about just taking care of himself.

He came to my house very late on a school night and was dressed ratty and brought his own stuff to do like laundry and his work water bottles to clean. I understand that he was tired. But he did have like 3 hours on his own after work which he probably spent on the computer. I did get upset that he showed up like that and did not help me or attempt to fit in with us and told him so. And he says that is the best he can do and we should not continue because I don't understand the stresses in his life. And no, I don't understand his stresses because they are far less than mine and I get a lot more done and have more ambition.

I am not upset - rather more amused at how stupid he was about the whole thing. But as Soonee pointed out, maybe that is a disadvantage to dating someone who has had a lot of women all his life because he can just get another one.

And really, I do need someone who will be a mentor for my son - to show up reasonably on time, dressed decently and show good manners and not be selfish.

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