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| Wed, 01-04-2006 - 2:42pm |
You guys were such great help with my issue with moving my kids to be closer to their father, so I thought maybe you could help me with a problem I am having with my boyfriend as well. Let me know what you think, all advice is welcome!
I have been with my bf for a year and a half. We’ve discussed marriage with each other and both feel that is the way things are heading. He wants to live together before marriage to see if we are compatible living together, but I said no. So we compromised and decided that we would do a week. So I packed up some stuff and went to his house. The next morning I get to work and realize that half the phone numbers of my male friends have been deleted from my cell phone. I was angry! This isn’t the first time he’s gone through my phone, and I told him the last time he did it that it upset me. I have very definite feelings on privacy, and this crosses the line for me. If you want to know who I’m calling, ask, or if you want to look in my phone, ask, but don’t wait until I’m asleep and doing it in such a sneaky way, and then delete phone numbers! So I called him and asked him if he was going through my phone when I feel asleep. He of course said no and wanted to know why I was asking. So I told him there were guy’s numbers missing from my phone. He had the nerve to get mad at me for asking and suggested I call the cell phone provider and tell them my phone isn’t functioning properly. The nerve! Like my phone is going too randomly delete numbers from my phonebook, and it just happens to have something against men? Pleasssseeee. So that was yesterday, and I just kinda let it drop because I didn’t have anyway to prove it was him. Well today I go to the bank to cash a check, the guy that wrote the check to me has my car and makes the car payments to me instead of the bank (he’s carrying my loan) so the teller had to verify the check. She asks if I have his phone number, which should have been in my cell, but guess what was gone? His number had been deleted too. So I couldn’t cash the check because he couldn’t be reached. Now I am plain pissed! I looked into phonebook again and found other numbers that were gone. My landlord, my ex husband (we have two kids together, so getting in touch with him is a must) my brother-in-law who is one of my best friends, and some old high school buddies. Most numbers I know by heart, but some I don’t. So now I am livid! What would possess a man to do something so juvenile and so obvious and then try and deny it? No one else had access to my phone, and unless I sleep walk and delete, it only leaves one option, him! Now it’s more of a trust issue because he is still trying to deny it was him, and I know he is lying to me. Should I just let this thing go, or kiss the relationship goodbye?

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