So far, so good .....

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 11:46am

Ave had her 1st pvt session with psyc yesterday, then I was invited in. Doc is very impressed w/ her verbalizations & being able to express her feelings about her dad, her fears, & her feelings of worrying about him.

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 11:59am

What

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 1:57pm

Wow, Rebecca.

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 3:38pm

Just discussed this with my SIL today. My brother is her Godfather, we are all very close. Thats the "aunt & uncle" (my nephews parents) that SHE would want to "go to" - if GOD FORBID anything happened. & in our wills b4 divorce, thats where she went if we both died. & now MY will has them as her gaurdians if I die ... BUT ... i do know w/ joint custody, he gets her by default. (moneywise, EVERYTHING for her goes to a trust, in my brother & unlces name only. So no matter who gets her, neither Taz, now my brother/SIL can get a cent, w/o specific permission from the other party, or in Taz's case, both my uncle & brother. My Dad is my medical power of atty, as I am his. & my aunt, who is a nurse, is my 2nd med POA ... God, the thought makes me ill).

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 3:50pm

Rebecca, based on his mental issues (and the psych eval/recommendations) you may be able to put a caveat in your will or instructions or whatever asking that he be 'cleared' before ever gaining custody.

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 3:58pm
GREAT idea. I will ask my atty about this on Thurs!

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 4:33pm

Wow Rebecca - this is huge - what a great post because you are being so productive and Avery is really benefiting from all of the hard work you have done. You have really accomplished a lot in so many ways with this doctor. Thank goodness you have stuck it out and made a lot of good decisions.

Keep us posted for court - I really hope you get the supervised visitation thing written in stone. My fingers are crossed and my heart goes out to you and Ave!

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 4:45pm

Ave verbalized more to him than she has in either of her 2 other therapists. YEY!

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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 3:50am
Revecca Averey is amazingly mature for her age. The poor kid to be worried about him .
I think it's a great idea to look into what you can put in your will to protect Averey if anything happened to you.

 



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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 10:23pm
I would imagine that if someone is in the middle of a bitter custody dispute, their putting a provision in their will that the other parent could not have custody if the first parent died would mean NOTHING.
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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 10:41pm

I love this psychologist, really wish my boys had someone this to the point. You finally got some luck Rlch. He should be a wonderful resource for Ave, and help her grow up without the scarring that comes with a disfunctional parent.

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