SO I FINALLY TOLD HIM: GET RID OF.....
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| Mon, 07-30-2007 - 5:30pm |
The NOSE HAIR, the EAR FUZZ, shorten your eyebrows and pleeeze chop half that hair off, you aren't twenty something! Then I went on to tell him, you know how that groesses me OUT, I can't STAND IT and if you can't do it yourself, then I will take you someplace to get it done! I told him I thought he was attractive, I thought he took great care of himself in all other departments, but that it was just my opinion.
My major gripe is that he let's himself go that way, but dresses SO nice. I also told him that he has about 200 shirts in his closet, but always wears the same one's. That he needs to change it too. He has great taste in clothes, a little on the crazy color side sometimes, but he is finally taking a turn for the better in that department.
His response to me was:
I just don't want to look like everyone else. I don't drive cars that look like everyone else's. I don't wear clothes that look like everyone else's. And I'm surely not going to have my hair looking like everyone else's. I have always been that way. But having said that...I would do whatever I could to make myself more attractive to you. You mean that much to me. - (my comment: I think that's kind of sad, but I had to tell him)
So that was so hard for me to overcome but I finally did it and I think I can now just keep telling him to watch the jungle. I hope he does it right, because if he doesn't, I am going to have to tell him again.
Anyway, he bought me a beautiful dress to go with my new hair this weekend. Then took me out to a fabulous dinner and out to different venues afterwards. We had so much fun. He looked great, except for the above, but he color coordinated his clothes to match mine somewhat. We looked sharp, not like twins. LOL.
He also bought the children their school supplies. I thought that was very kind. We talked some more about us, but I still haven't been able to get over the hump. I have so much that holds me back, but all stupid reasons. He's my best friend, so I just don't get it. Who knows, maybe next weekend.....
For those that don't know Jesus Sandals, it's been an ongoing very long thing about him being in love with me. Now I am starting to do alot more reflecting on myself and on my relationship with Jesus Sandals to try and figure out what my issues really are.
This is the case of someone who treats you like a queen and let's you be you and would give you the world on a platter AND on top of it all be your best friend, verses the loser jerk that treats you like doggie poo. And what do we choose: the poo.
The older we get the wiser we should get too.

Oh wow - this is like reading a novel or like watching a movie. Your script is full of surprises. But I do agree it is worth a try and will stand by for the updates!! :-)
And no one else but our dear German-American Cat to let him know just what is on her mind!!!!! They say honesty is the best policy. And you did follow that to the T.
Does this mean that you're reconsidering a romantic relationship with Mr Sandals?
I think I've always sort of been in his corner, simply because the things you didn't like about him were superficial and changeable. I'm not judging you for not liking those things, but it's so much better than lying about anything, drinking too much, partying all the time, standing you up, expecting you to spend eons watching someone else's children play ball...
I guess what I'm saying is that I hope you do give him a chance, if you think you can. I don't want you to lead the man on, he's obviously very into you. This is the way you should EXPECT to be treated, by anyone.
Whether you do end up dating Sandals or not, the way he treats you would be a great guage for others- if they aren't on par, they're not good enough. I feel I should temper this by saying it probably isn't good to compare- but I know were funnyguy and I to end our relationship, I wouldn't enter into another one where I wasn't treated at least as well as he treats me.
Good luck, and post, post, post, since now I'm dying for an update!
Moody, thinking about school supplies herself
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I think friendship is a great basis for a relationship. After all you will have to actually like the person you will be spending time with. I do want to caution you in that you can't change anyone. Although I don't know that hygiene and a hair cut are really changing them too much. (LOL)
He does sound like a really nice guy (does he live in Wilmington?) but may be too far away. Geography could be a factor. Maybe I'll get to meet him?
Priscilla
I'm pretty sure you'll meet him next weekend. We stick together like glue, or more he sticks to me like glue, so I don't foresee you NOT seeing him. He already knows your in town this weekend. The long distance between has never been a problem. I don't have the time over the weekday and our weekends are spent together most of the time and if not, then it's ok too. No skin off my back. I'm pretty relaxed about it all.
As for it being "the ONE", I have some SERIOUS soul searching to do before I do anything else.
I'm definitely confused about everything. However, no matter how much I make fun of him or give a hard time or want him to leave me alone, their are a few things I CAN'T overlook:
1. I think about him all day long. If I have something important to me, he's the first one I want to call and tell.
2. Alison kept saying, I have to cut the strings if I don't want anything to do with him (and ladies that is GREAT advice). However, the thought of cutting the strings is a no go. I can't. I care to much about him, so their must be something more then just a good ole buddy.
3. He knows my deepest secrets, knows what my life is really like and the struggles and successes I've had. He KNOWS about ALL my relationships and how they ALL ended, because he would be the first one I cried too. And still he thinks I am the most awesome woman he has ever met.
4. He always makes me happy, when I don't feel like strangling. He does whatever it takes to make us girls happy. Always taking care of us and making us laugh.
5. I know he really really loves me.
Ok, so knowing all of this, why am I holding back? It's been a long drawn conversation between JS and myself now. I don't feel like I'm in love with him, but I don't want to let him go. I don't have the head over heels euphoria going, so what is going on? Why is it I can't feel like I can live with him, but not without him either? I can't imagine my life with him day in and day out, but I can't imagine it without him in my life every day. So what is WRONG with me? ((sigh)).......
Why ? Cause he's a GOOD FRIEND and that's ALL!!
Trust me,