So I gave this one a chat
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| Fri, 06-22-2007 - 10:01pm |
Okay - and I was on POF and bored - a chat came in from a guy with no pic who lives too far away. So for once I allowed the chat - just to practice chatting and having fun instead of being the tough guy that doesn't allow excessive drinking and gambling.
Okay - so listen to this....
His profile says 40, single, tell you later about having kids or wanting kids - and a whole list of all kinds of activities from riding banana boats to motorcycles.
Anyway, he starts drilling me with 50 questions. Do I want to get married? Why did I get divorced? Do I want more kids? How long was I married? How long have I been single? Do I like shopping? What do I do for fun? What kind of movies do I like? Do I like motorcycles?
What a hoot. I was answering them - what the heck, right? See where he goes.
So I asked him - why have you never been married?
And he says he is married - he is in the middle of getting divorced. Has one kid who is 6.
I asked him why they are getting divorced - he says - no fun, no spark, no love.
Isn't that crazy - I think he should have checked the separated box - not the single box!! And he wrote in his profile - why are all the pretty women divorced?
So then he asks when am I coming to his house and that is when his lucky stick ran out for talking with me and I deleted him.
Too crazy!! I was thinking of rlch and her "divorcee test" - does your wife know this? I was SO tempted to ask that!!

This one makes me wonder if his wife does know- he doesn't admit to being either married or separated, and doesn't say he has a child.
It's funny that he felt it was fine for him to interrogate you, but didn't offer anything about himself, including in his profile.
I'm glad you see the humor- it isn't all bad, and since you know what to look for, and what you want, you'll find it. Time, practice, patience!
Moody, who should be cleaning
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I think the lesson that taught me, along with all the profiles I have read and compared to meeting and talking to them on the phone, is that you have to investigate. What people write is different from how you will perceive them and how they will match with you.
In his mind he is single. And since he is not yet divorced he doesn't want to discuss the kid thing. He just wants to live in a fairytale in his own mind and find the chemistry and fun youth of days gone by. It screams "FLING" to me!!
I didn't mind being interrogated - it was sort of fun - because there is no way he was a match. And after being such a hardliner and nixxing so many this week I think I just wanted to prove I can be fun and have an open mind? But NOT that open!!
He also didn't have a picture - maybe he doesn't want his wife to know he is online? Scary!
I think the craziest profile yet is the one of the pro-tennis player who is now a consultant to other pro players and writes all this stuff about his friends finding spouses online and how he wants the woman of his dreams and a relationship - but when you talk to him on the phone it is clear he has a whole 'nother agenda - he wants someone into a mad sex relationship - going to hedonism resorts in the islands and to the swinging singles types of places for a FIRST date!! I am just not into that scene. But what that one portrayed versus what he wants and is all about is vastly different.
Wow- swinging on a first date?
Ummm NEXT!!!
What has HAPPENED to people????
:::first time back since my first post so im waving--no new news/everything is the same on my behalf:::
It's interesting how men (generally speaking of course) ARE so 'interested' in why this why that when everything occured and how it occured but once women start questioning them they either get weirded out or lie. Bleh. No fun. Im happy the first man (my current s/o) I dated after I left my ex wasn't this way.
At least you 'gave him a chat' though--otherwise you would have never known, right!?
Good luck!