So sick of men lying about height!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
So sick of men lying about height!
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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 9:47am

I mean REALLY! Do they think we wont NOTICE when we meet them???????????

Went out Mon nite with the firefighter from the Cape. He SAID he was 5' 10" in his profile on Match. I am 5' 8" barefoot. There was NO way he was more than 5' 7".

Sure, we had a $100+ bottle of wine, incredible dinner, & he threw away about $500 on the balckjack tables (of which *I* Lost about $400 on him, lol)--- but he was totally not my type physically.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 12:11pm

Hey, not being a "tall" girl this is an odd one for me but the rest of your description makes him sound just scary!!!!! Yikes!!!!! I have a tall girlfriend that really must have a tall man and can't get past it if they aren't at least 5 inches taller than her. I can't get past really bad teeth (or body odor but that is a hygiene issue). Find it gross. So there is certainly something for everyone.

Priscilla

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Registered: 09-26-2005
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 12:14pm

His being a bad "type" was based on personality traits, not on physical attributes. Your post made it sound like you were rejecting him because he lied(totally a deal breaker), and because he was shorter, you had not mentioned his other obnoxious qualities.

Bad personality traits are always deal breakers, less than perfect(?) physical traits are not deal breakers for me.

That was the point of my post, that for my own standards, I would not reject someone
soley based on physical "type". Personality "type" is everything to me.

My "Type" is a good guy with a good heart and a great personality. I am very open
minded as far as the looks go.

The T Girl
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 1:13pm
Actually, now that i re-read my 1st post, i guess i shouldnt have said "Physically" at the end. B/c sure, he wasnt my type phsyically (& again, i defend that it IS absolutely ok to have a physical type you are attracted to or not ... for ME, i just am NOT attracted to a man shorter than me - no matter HOW gorgeous or nice he is. Will that change one day? Maybe ... thats why i HAVE given guys a chance who arent my type, but just as someone may not be attracted to bald, or a different race, its a height thing for me) - but yes, there were MANY obvious reasons i wasnt attracted - in addition to height.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 3:58pm

Gross...that guy sounds sticky...litereally sticky or greasy...lol.

I put on my profile that I'm more comfortable with a man over 5'9"...and I'm 5'2". But I am more comfortable that way. I went out with a guy who was 5'8" at best and it just felt really weird. Plus guys who are shorter have a much smaller frame which is NOT good for me.

This girl needs a man...a TALL man!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 5:57pm
You have the right attitude!! Are you using your modeling pix on your OLD profile? I was thinking about that today on my ride - that you should ask one of the photographers to give you some of the extras that don't get used! I also think you could use your modeling title as a spin - curvy supermodel mama!! LOL!!
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 5:58pm

This is an absolute hilarious title and description!! You are always so so so funny when you have these stories! You should write a column in one of the women's magazines. It sounds like his whole attitude just turned you off. I almost spewed my coffee when I read Gavonne-ish"

LMAO!!!

I think the lying about the height is a definite deal breaker - and especially since he fudged about 4 inches. He definitely has issues.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 7:09pm

I guess I don't understand... why allow someone to spend a substantial amount of money to impress you when you are so very sure you're not interested?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 12:01am

Actually, let me cut & paste a few of my "defenses" on this from the OLD board - maybe it will make some sense ......... there was a big ole uproar over there ... AS usual ...
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No no no, *I* didnt spend any of his money. He obviously bought dinner - & it was him who ordered the very expensive wine. When i say he lost $$$ "due to me" on the gambling, it was b/c he kept throwing $100 bills on the table to gamble & losing. He played balckjack & i watched- but when he did some table where you roll dice, maybe Craps? i think - he had me rolling the dice. Apparently i didnt roll very well b/c the whole TABLE would groan, lol. (like i could HELP what the dice came up as!) In fact, i ended up playing about 3 hands of blackjack at $20 hands, towards the end, & each time went to pay myslef for my own hand & he became VERY offended & told the dealer to take it from his chips.

I never have & would never "use" a guy for $. Have more than enough of my own to spend as i please. Im not wealthy, by any means, but i live well. Am i impressed by a man who "has money"? Sure. As LONG as he is a nice guy & isnt "flaunting it". This guy seemed like a nice enough guy, but he was WAY over the top in throwing money around - which totally turns me off. He could have way less money & be less "over the top" & then I woudl be impressed.
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Please see above explanation to Layx. No, i wasnt attracted to him. But how MANY times do people here say "give someone a chance", "dont judge them right away" ... which is what i did. Now, if i walked in & saw he was short & i wasnt attracted - what would you suggest I do? Say "sorry, no interest. Bye". We had dinner reservations AT the casino. We ate - he ordered the wine AND insisted on ordering apps, dessert, etc - when all i ordered was the entree. Again, i didnt ASK the guy to order a $100+ bottle of wine. But, one of the things we DO have in common is wine tastings & the love of good wine. It is far from out of the ordinary for this guy TO order this type of expensive wine. I wasnt attracted physically at 1st, & that didnt change. He WAS interesting though to talk to (when he wasnt calling me "babe", ick) ... & we had very good conversation. He has a yellow lab, & we have a lot of other interests we were able to talk about. But, as the nite wore on, the other things that turned me off piled up. There was no taking advantage on either of our parts.

& i actually DID try to graciously bow out of the gambling after dinner b/c i knew i had no interest in him, but after he spent THAT much on dinner, i thougth it would be rude to just blow out of there "hey, thanks for the $200 dinner, Im leaving now". He had planned on the rest of the date being inside the casino & he made it very apparent that that was "part of the date". When he said "ok, lets go up to the casino" I tried to say that it was getting late, maybe I should get going, etc ... & he was quite insistent I come to "be his good luck charm". Which i obviously was not.
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Exactly! & my point was like i said above, it wasnt like *I* was the one ordering all the expensive stuff OR grabbing $ from his wallet for God sakes. He is an ADULT & chose to spend it on me, with me, near me, lol - whatever.

& again, what was i supposed to do? Leave as soon as I saw he wasnt "my type"? There is more to just someones "type" & i gave it a chance.
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Thats where some women differ. HE chose the restaraunt, HE chose to order a $32 appetizer to share, a dessert, & the $$$ in wine. No way am I handing over $150 to cover my share, or whatever. I *did* though, twice, offer to pay for the cocktails we had -once prior & once after - & he was almost offended. As he was when i offered to pay for my own hand at blackjack.

If a guy asks ME out, & chooses the date plans, i expect him to pay. Its a crap shot whether or not someone is going to hit if off in a 1st OLD ... so if he wanted to play if safe financially, then he should have asked me for coffee.
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Registered: 02-23-2007
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 12:15am

I look forward to your posts - you have such a wonderful sense of humor and a great perspective and attitude. It is too bad that some people misinterpret you at times. Considering what you bring to the boards, I read all your posts in the light of the generous and openminded person I think you are. (wow - it sounds like I'm trying to date you!). Anyway...

It sounds like this guy - after lying about his height - tried to over compensate with swagger and cash.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 8:40am

APPLAUSE!! I totally agree with you! I've had men do some VERY crazy things for me on a first date, just to impress. I don't get impressed with money, but I do have to have some sort of attraction. When I look at someone and cringe, it doesn't matter HOW much money he has. BUT! What are you supposed to do? Smile. Accept his generosity. Try to have everyone have an enjoyable evening without offending and if at all possible, offer to buy this or that. HOWEVER, I've never gotten around to offering. If the guy insists on paying over a hundred dollars on wine, then that is what he wants.
AND TO ADD TO THAT!!!

THEIR ARRRRE VERY ludicrious RICH MEN ON OLD. PERIOD. They spend their money like WATER. They can afford too and that is what they do. Not only paupers and mediocre incomes are online. Maybe the majority, but let's be realistic. How many times do we see income over a 100 thousand a year? I have SEEN LOADS!
So when a guy is wealthy, wants a date and trying to impress me; I'm not suprised when a hundred roses land on my desk, when I am being taken out on a private yacht for a candle light dinner, when I am being flown to Paris for lunch. It is, what it is. (AND OH WHAT FUN)
THAT still doesn't mean; I am using him, sleeping with him or having a second date. Like RICH said: They make the choice and LIFE IS a craps game; gamble. I am not going to date someone again JUST because he spends a few hundred or thousand on me. GIVE ME A BREAK!!!