So sick of men lying about height!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
So sick of men lying about height!
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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 9:47am

I mean REALLY! Do they think we wont NOTICE when we meet them???????????

Went out Mon nite with the firefighter from the Cape. He SAID he was 5' 10" in his profile on Match. I am 5' 8" barefoot. There was NO way he was more than 5' 7".

Sure, we had a $100+ bottle of wine, incredible dinner, & he threw away about $500 on the balckjack tables (of which *I* Lost about $400 on him, lol)--- but he was totally not my type physically.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 8:58am

"If a guy asks ME out, & chooses the date plans, i expect him to pay. Its a crap shot whether or not someone is going to hit if off in a 1st OLD ... so if he wanted to play if safe financially, then he should have asked me for coffee."

AGREED!!!!!!!!!

I don't think it is your fault that he
a) lied about his height and has issues regarding it
b) felt like he had to stand on a wad of cash to make up for it

It sounds like you went along with his play to finish out the evening. I have never had the courage to just get up and walk out on dinner and would not do that to someone. Even though I have had a LOT of dates where I did not like the person I have always finished the plans - dinner, coffee, lunch, breakfast, whatever. It is an evening out.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 9:04am

"How many times do we see income over a 100 thousand a year? I have SEEN LOADS! "

Agreed. I have had a man from the islands who was moving here fly here twice a week for a date and take me to a home thousands of miles away that was on 4 acres on the ocean that most of us could only imagine or see in a magazine.

I must say that when I see over $100K it is almost a turnoff to me now. Sure, it would be great to have a rich SO - there was even an article on MSN on how to land one (and it sort of had a sarcasm that it was way too much effort in the end) - but they almost always have issues. Drinking too much, wanting me to leave the kids with the nanny while we travel the world, infidelity (the one with the 4 acres had cheated on his wife and left me to go back to that woman) - on and on.

But the thing is, I have my own money and life - and want someone who can blend easily with that. Not think that was I do is a nuisance - which a really rich person would tend to think.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 9:11am

Totally agree with that too! I don't want to leave my children with a Nanny. That isn't the life I want to lead. I want to experience my children growing up; I don't need money for a man to impress me. It goes WAY beyond that now.

HOWEVER!!!!!! Let's not go OVERBOARD Ladies. IF I meet a man that is loaded and my children are out of the house?? And cute to boot? HECK YEAH, I'll take him up on the offer!!!LOL!!!!




Edited 7/12/2007 9:18 am ET by myprecioustwo
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Registered: 09-26-2005
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 11:31am

Awww Shucks Judy, thanks for thinking of me.

When I was new to old, I tried using the modeling angle; needless to say it backfired on me terribly(lots of very bad results). The quality of men that responded were atrocious,
the uber superficial type of men.

I usually can't use my shoot pics because the client that commissions them, owns them.
99% of the time they don't look like me anyway. I've had photog friends take, nice real life shots of me, and I have 2 in my profile(from my son's wedding-my ds hired him).

My profile pics are good real-life depics. of me. The one shown here is actually a much better pic., but the downsizing to fit here kind of messed it up a bit. If you saw me walking down the street, you would recognize me from it though and that's what I want.

Bottom line is that I'm a modest person(I blush head to toe when complimented), I wouldn't want a guy to be interested in me just because of how I look. Yes, he should be attracted, but my value as a person is what lies within. Looks fade, and I don't want to be made to feel that I have to look good all the time, I usually look like bride of Frankenstein in the am, so he has to be cool with that too. So I market myself as the regular, every day gal I am because that's what they will get 99% of the time.

The T Girl
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 10:06am

This whole thread is pretty interesting! I guess I'm lucky that I'm short. That means I have a bigger range of men who COULD be dating candidates to choose from! I'm only about 5'1" and I'm not a big fan of high heels- so even at that 'measely' 5'7" that Hiker is... he is plenty tall enough for me. My ex was about the same height, maybe an inch taller at the most. I've also dated men who were 6'0" on up to 6'2" at the tallest- and once they get up towards 6'2"- they're really pretty much too tall for me. Trying to kiss while standing is a bit uncomfortable because he has to bend down and I have to reach up too much.

Hiker and I just FIT and that's all that matters to me. :-)

But as far as the OLD profile lying- I don't like that either! And I don't get it- because like everyone's already said- just HOW do they plan on keeping up with the lie once you actually meet in person?!? But I have to agree with the poster (taina?) who said that men might lie about height the way women might lie about their weight. When in reality- neither sex should be aching over either one, and both sexes should just be honest and love themselves the way they are and look for a partner who feels the same. If the other person is going to be disappointed or upset because of your TRUE physical attribute, then it's time to simply say "Next!!" and let them go hunting some more on their merry way, leaving you to find someone who is looking for what you ARE.

I just see alot of people on the OLD sites who are too scared of rejection to REALLY be there. And too many are on there looking for "perfection" or some ideal rather than looking for a REAL partner.

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 7:48pm
The height thing wouldn't bother me, but how the heck does a firefighter have the $$$$ to just throw away at a craps table? Can you say gambling addiction or at the very least impulsive. Either way, sounds like he might have financial issues if he's throwing money around like that on a first date.

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