So, sounds like lots of our

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So, sounds like lots of our
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Fri, 05-18-2007 - 2:54pm

board mates have met mates. I, on the other hand, haven't had a date in a couple of months. A little broke so not doing any OLD because I can't afford the extra expense right now and just haven't met anyone out. There is a local singles group but everytime there is a get together I have my kids (and again money is too tight for a sitter). So not much action coming my way.

Although the casual dating is still fun. I think I'm ready to find someone that I can actually spend time and build a relationship with. And I know I'll probably get a little smack here for this, I'd like someone to spend the holidays with this year. I did them with the kids last year but will be completely alone this year. I don't have any family, just me and will be turning 40 then. I'd like someone to spend that time with. I know that is a lot of pressure but I think it may totally suck for me to have Christmas, turn 40 and then start a New Year alone. My friends all leave town for the holidays so that isn't an option. I will be just me rattling around alone. I've done it before but not looking forward to it. Also I'm ready to have some sex!!!

OK I know I didn't ask for any advice just some rambling goin on...

Priscilla

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Fri, 05-18-2007 - 5:09pm

I have always had vague wishes for a partner during holidays. It isn't so much being alone for me- I always have my kids. But I just felt like "family" events were missing something.

funnyguy and I obviously haven't celebrated any holidays together yet, and we haven't taken any family trips or really done anything overly "family". But now that I have him, I realize that the holidays in the past weren't any less familial, I was simply longing for adult companionship- all the time, and doing things with tons of other families heightened my awareness.

There's nothing wrong with that, in my opinion, unless I start to lose myself or give up the things that I do solo that make me happy. funnyguy is an addition to my life- a wonderful addition, but still just an addition. As Judy said, he's not the centerpiece on my table.

Moody, who can relate


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Fri, 05-18-2007 - 10:36pm

well if you're ready to stir the pot a bit there is always plentyoffish.com. It's free and might be a nice start to just see what's out there :)

Good luck and keep us posted!

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Mon, 05-21-2007 - 8:36pm

Oh Priscilla - I have had many holidays by myself so no smack for you - I know that is hard.

Hopefully you meet a MrRight soon!