So today's question is....

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2001
So today's question is....
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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 4:39pm

J said that she was going to call me tonight, before she left town for the weekend.

Anyone want to lay off any bets on this one?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 4:57pm
I think she will call.

Kim

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Registered: 03-04-2005
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 7:36pm

Me too.

Amy

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 9:27am

She will call!! Girls are good about that stuff.

Where is she going for the weekend?

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 9:55am
Has she ever not called before when she said she would? Or is it that you've done all the calling up to this point?

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Registered: 07-10-2001
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 11:13am

J did not call.

Her weekend plans were to go out of town to go quadding with a group of friends.

She was supposed to leave this morning, and get back Sunday afternoon.

Oh well, I guess I have THAT answer.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 11:22am
Hmmmm. I wonder what that means. My bf has not called when I expected a call before, although he has a pretty good record. Not calling has always been a huge pet peeve of mine, but I know sometimes people get busy, plans change, they forget and so as long as it's not a habit it's usually excusable. I hope she calls when she gets back on Sunday.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 11:29am

I am sorry. BUT, try try TRY not to put too much expectation or pressure on her OR yourself with this whole thing.


This is so SO early. My thought is, her not calling means very little about what she thinks about you. She's just not so into the relationship to be at a point where she thinks she should call. She might've forgot. She might've only had time when it was late and didn't want to call that late.


Whatever the case, I think the worst thing you can do is to overanalyze her every move. She'll pick up on that quickly from you.

Becky

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Registered: 07-10-2001
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 11:44am

Thanks guys,

I'm going to try not to analyze it at all....but when the day is over and the kids are down...she is who I'm thinking about...so I'm sure I'll.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 12:43pm

I've done the online dating thing before. Sometimes people go out of town because they went out of town. Sometimes they say they are going out of town to get out of seeing you that weekend.

In either case, I wouldn't worry too much about her calling or not calling. You've invested two dates with this woman and one bunch of flowers. I wouldn't let her rent too much space in your head at this point.

If a guy told me he was going to call, and he didn't, I wouldn't be too impressed with that person. I read "He's Just Not That Into You". My current BF has always called me when he said he would. He's that interested in me and needs to talk to me.

Especially, early in the game, if she said she was going to call....she would have if she wanted to. I have a cell phone. I can use it anywhere.

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 7:47am
dear az_tbone,
It sounds like your hopes were up for her to call. And then like me you want to kick yourself in the A** for caring if they do or not. I was recently dumped, thought don't be sitting around feeling sorry for yourself, get out there and put a smile on your face and hold your head up high. So I have gone out, actually hooked up with someone from my past but kept telling myself take it slow, so what if the sex is incredible and you admit deep down in your heart this man is the sun, the moon, and the stars...but he said he would call, this isn't the first time he didn't when he said he would. By the way I said I wanted to take it slow he respected that and here I am sitting trying to figure out why he didn't, will he and when or dammit why the h*ll do I care. I just do.
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